Backlash After Penny’s Story On ‘My 600-lb Life’

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Penny on her way to Houston for surgery on My 600 Lb. Life

Penny’s story on last night’s show, “My 600-lb Life” provoked strong reactions.

The new TLC reality series chronicles the tale of one person an episode and takes viewers through a year in the life of someone struggling on a daily basis, at a size that keeps some of them off their feet. Penny, 46  is one of those who has been unable to walk for four years.

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What brought out the anger in viewers who posted on social media sites was Penny’s claim that she wanted to rejoin life coupled with her refusal to follow medical advice to get there. Her husband Edgar came under fire as well for seeming clueless about what part he played in his wife’s life threatening condition.

She began the show at 530 lbs (not her highest weight) and was not significantly less at the end of the one-hour program.

Penny could not even stand up without enormous help and only for a brief period, despite gastric bypass surgery, a more balanced diet and months of physical therapy.

Her feet and legs had yet to become accustomed to bearing her weight to enable her to stand without two people holding her steady as she held on to something in front of her. Walking was out of the question.

As Penny’s doctor, Younan Nowzaradan learned, she was not ready to work at getting stronger or to deny herself the amount of food and the type of food she demanded.

The enormity of the task got the best of her. We watched as she traveled from her home to Houston for treatment and surgery.What it took to get Penny out of her home and into a van for the trip was shocking. A link to a video clip about that struggle is posted below.

Because her husband couldn’t leave her alone in the vehicle it would mean that the trip could not include any way for him to catch sleep at a hotel/motel on the way.

She lost 40 lbs. in one month of hospitalization being fed a 1,200 calorie per day diet. She underwent the surgery and had high hopes that all would be different because of the severe reduction in the size of her stomach.

Penny’s inability to stick to it, even in the hospital was maddening to viewers as well as her own doctor. She inexplicably refused to try to walk or some days even sit up, then there was the bad food that creeped back into her diet. She was depressed and let it get the best of her.

She and Edgar had years of practice of him wanting to make her happy and supplying her with food that helped keep her a prisoner in her own body. Dr. Nowzaradan called Edgar an enabler. When Penny hadn’t lost another pound during a long hospitalization, the doctor released her, thinking that her own environment could be a help.

Edgar rented an apartment in Houston so she could remain close to the facility, but the eating began again. She gained weight, missed appointments and ended up back in the hospital where she refused to believe the scales were correct. She fell into despair.

The cycle continued until she was discharged for good, when a very patient and kind Dr. Nowzaradan called a spade a spade. Penny was not ready to do the work necessary to recover and reduce her body size, and Edgar was not up to the task of being an enforcer, rather than an enabler.

There was hope at the show’s conclusion after Edgar and Penny decided that they could manage to eat better and less, just not at the level recommended for her. Penny even set a goal to leave the house and sit in an auditorium to watch Liam graduate from kindergarten.

That never happened, but the couple believed it could at some point in the future.

What was a bit surprising was that Penny was never seen speaking with a psychiatrist/psychologist during the entire year chronicled on the show. Perhaps she was treated for her depression and mental health issues and TLC did not include that in the edited video footage. After all, it was a year’s overview condensed to a one-hour TV show.

What did you think of Penny’s story? There will be others as TLC airs “My 600 lb. Life” each Tuesday night at 9:00 p.m. ET

Video of Penny’s trip to Houston and how that had to be accomplished is posted on TVRuckus

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301 thoughts on “Backlash After Penny’s Story On ‘My 600-lb Life’

  1. I found myself angry at this woman who was manipulating everyone around her and always playing the victim.
    Her attitude SUCKED from the beginning. She has no idea of what eating a healthy diet means, and wouldn’t listen to anyone’s advice.
    Everyone caters to her…her husband, the dozens of paramedics having to move her in and out of multiple places, and the doctor who was doing everything in his power to help her, but she wouldn’t help herself.
    I guess what really ticked me off the most, was the fact that she was on disability and her husband quit his job to care for her fat ass 24/7. Hello…who’s paying for all of this???????????????????
    So multiple surgeries and MONTHS of hospitalization (PRIVATE ROOMS???..UGH) not to mention the multiple ambulance rides AND apartment rentals…HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS!!!!!………WHO is paying..? Seriously?
    I pay a hell of lot of taxes and even more for health insurance, and to see this woman scamming the system really pisses me off!
    God, I hope the TV show foots some of this bill!

    • While I have no idea how much TLC network pays Penny and her family, the doctor or the hospital in Houston, you have to presume that the TV show is picking up costs for this. How much of it is impossible to know, but the family is living on disability. They can’t afford what they did for a year, living in Texas, operations, a good doctor, on that amount per month.

    • Ha Ha, Amen to that! PLease consider that these people are the same fools that want all of us to pay for their damn health care too!! Get ready for obamacare. Dont forget that penny is also type II diabetic and “Injects insulin into large blobs of fat”

      Edgar is definitely an enabler and was sneaking food into the hospital which was why she would not lose weight after the surgery!! I am so pissed off!! I hope that they hear our voices and realize that they dont live in a vacuum! They are damaging their own sons life as well as many others. What about the poor people who tried to help them and donated money? This is so sick!!

      • I honestly believe after all that was done and we paid for by us….for this selfish biotch that only cares about herself… the disability we are paying her should be stopped and her husband needs to get a real job like us to pay for all her food and medical….. then maybe her would realize and they both would change….. that poor child…. makes me physically ill to see… she is a true waste of our taxes…. the end.

      • edgar needs to grow a pair…. what kind she do to him if he refuses to bring her junk food and clean her c rap? It not like she can get up and hit him with a frying pan.

    • Exactly!!! Ticked me off too that she and her husband lived off her being on disability. I don’t think you should qualify for disability because you CHOOSE to eat an unhealthy diet and get zero exercise, self serving consequence! I don’t understand how someone can get that big, and it’s upsetting that some of these people get to the point that they are 100% reliable on someone else to take care of them and the care givers bring them McDonald’s, large pizzas and sodas. Bring them a salad, baked fish and a glass of water!

      • I thought this was made up. Ive watched almost everyone of these extreme weight loss shows and this is literally the first time I have seen someone not only not lose but GAIN weight after a gastric bypass. Its crazy. Even crazy 600lb mom Dominique Langois from Miami on TLC lost almost 100 lbs after a bypass before she finally snapped and rescued herself from a rehab facility and then in true Darwin fashion bought the farm/

    • Maddening…utterly maddening. One of those people who thinks she knows best, who has an excuse for everything, who has the part of the ‘victim’ down perfectly, who blames everyone but herself and who will die young, (having pulled money and resources from the medical system that could be used to help genuinely sick people who are truly ill through no fault of their own) leaving a son motherless. Some people are beyond help, as the Dr said again and again “The Scales don’t lie!” (she even tried to suggest that had incorrectly weighed her!) – how annoying to be a medical professional using all of your knowledge and expertise to try to help someone and to have them behave in such a way….it just goes to prove the point…you can drag (with six firemen and a huge ambulance) an enormous, bed ridden, eating machine of a horse to water…but you cant make it drink…unless it’s chocolate milk and an ice cream. Shame on you Penny, at then end of the day there is only one person to blame for the way you are now and only one person who will get you out of this. If you want eat something maybe try a big old slice of humble pie?, listen to your Doctor, follow his advice and for the sake of your Son and your family lose the weight and get back to the precious gift of life you are squandering.

      • How can you even admit on the air that you borrowed money from friends and neighbors!!! these people must be so angry, I know would be, they just borrowed her money so they could eat more junk!!!! to see her not even try made me so mad, then at the end of the show she says “Liam sees how much I’m willing to go through for him to lose weight” who does she think she is kidding? were not all as stupid as you Penney, I just could never face my friends that helped me out with money ever again, but she has no pride so I guess she would even ask them again for money. what a waste of oxygen.

    • Penny is horrible! Her husband is in almost as much denial about reality as she is. The only victim in the household is the little boy. I hope he has some normal, functional role models in his life.

    • I too was outraged that all of these options were provided to this woman and she took advantage of none of them. I am having WLS next week, but my insurance doesn’t cover it so I have to pay for it out of pocket. There are some of us who would do just about anything to have the tools she was provided. I pray she will change her behavior.

  2. I’m annoyed she came to my state and wasted money for her surgery. Then she waste government money by being on disability. She is a liar she never tried she has no ambition.

  3. Penny’s attitude disgusts me. I agree with S post above. She is manipulative and blames everyone for her lack of success. Her behavior is selfish. She said she was there for her child more than a mom who had a job and working everyday. Who is she kidding? She has no idea what she is talking about. She is a poor role model for her child and the mental issues this child will deal with as an adult is probably just as bad as the abusive father she grew up with.

    I have never written a post about a TV show. Bottom line…the husband and child are better off without her. I know this sounds awful but unless the show was going to end with Penny coming to grips with her self sabotaging ways… i would have been fine with the doc signing her death certificate at the end of the show. Now I’ve wasted a hour of my life watching this horrible episode?

    • Get up off your fat ass and start helping yourself. Excuses after excuses. Your husband and your son are in jail!! What are you possibly giving them that would make them want to stay with you?? Only YOU can help yourself!!! Start now!!your son needs a mother!!!

  4. What a fat waste of skin. She didn’t even try to lose weight. What did she think, the surgery was going to lose the weight for her?! Idiot. I hope Edgar wises up and leaves her so her son doesn’t have to watch his mother kill herself with food. Who chooses food over their own child? It’s maddening!

    • You are absotutolutely right about penny the penny waster. She is definitely “penny foolish”. The Russians have a word for her; stupidiotsky, and the hispanics have a word, stupidiodo, and the Americans have a word, damn stupid idiot.

  5. Penny’s attitude disgusts me. I agree with S post above. She is manipulative and blames everyone for her lack of success. Her behavior is selfish. She said she was there for her child more than a mom who had a job and working everyday. Who is she kidding? She has no idea what she is talking about. She is a poor role model for her child and the mental issues this child will deal with as an adult is probably just as bad as the abusive father she grew up with.

    I have never written a post about a TV show. Bottom line…the husband and child are better off without her. I know this sounds awful but unless the show was going to end with Penny coming to grips with her self sabotaging ways… i would have been fine with the doc signing her death certificate at the end of the show. Now I’ve wasted a hour of my life watching this horrible episode. Ugh!

  6. She is disgusting and seems to be psychotic. If she didn’t make America sick enough, she had to announce that she can now wash her own vagina. Thanks for sharing that with us all, Penny. There are thousands of worthy people who would love to have that s surgery with Dr Nowzaadan. What a waste of a gifted surgeon, disability money, and organs that could be harvested and used for worthy human beings. I feel sorry for that kid. Is it me, or did he look huge for kindergarten! On Penny’s Facebook, there are pics of the kid and his mouth is filled with permanent teeth (in kindergarten) and many metal dental fillings. I’m sure he eats garbage- how could he not? Penny and Edgar are two of the grossest people I’ve ever seen.

  7. I had gastric bypass surgery on Nov 11th 2013. I weighed 315..ugh, right? 10 weeks later I have lost 62.5lb. Its not easy to change eating habits but you MUST before and after having gastric bypass. Along with my friend the treadmill I am becoming the active, healthier person that I used to be…which was my first GOAL. Something Penny said she would never do is set goals, whaaaa???!! She made me angry too. I have a long journey ahead to reach my final goal but there’s no way you will see me eating fried foods anytime soon! I hope when Penny sees the show and all of the blogs she will finally realize that she is ruining her greatest chance for change and that she will be Ready to lose the weight. Her son is worthy of having a mother, not a beanbag that occasionally tickles him.

    • “Not a beanbag that occasionally tickles him.” – that’s funny.
      Come here and let me tickle you… yum yum yum. It’s like that Little Caesars commercial where the kids just slip into the beanbag. Good thing her vagina is clean.

    • Good for you Heather!! Losing weight is never easy; I firmly believe that it’s comparable to quitting smoking, you have to want to do it for yourself in order to accomplish your goals. The fact that Penny said she had no goals was dumbfounding to me. How ignorant can a person be? Clearly very! Shame on her husband for being such an enabler, I understand that he loves her, but he should love her enough to cut her off from the crap food he’s been serving her! I also agree with Jill, their poor son is going to be so messed up from watching his mom slowly die at his father’s hand and from her unwillingness to get up off of her lazy butt to save herself! That episode was a total waste of money unless Penny actually watches it and realizes how foolishly manipulative and selfish-destructive she is and changes her ways. Seriously doubt it though

      • Losing weight is unlike most addictions, because you still have to eat. Quit smoking and you start breathing better. Quit eating and you die. It is totally changing all of your thoughts and habits. I agree quitting smoking is tough because both are often used as emotional crutches, but they are definitely different.
        Mental health is never easy and I would love to see some more psychoanalysis go into the patients beforehand. I am not a medical doctor, but it seems like just losing 30lbs does not prove you are in it for the long haul. Many people yo-yo and it would be great to see some thoughts about why, how to prevent, and how to manage. If they could come up with coping skills to teach people and how to deal with the obvious mental illness that plaques these people, then less money would be wasted. Mental illness is drastically under treated in our society. Some “tlc” properly utilized would benefit these people much more than surgery ever will.

  8. Penny came off EXTREMELY ungreatful & very bratty at times. Why waste people’s time, energy, resources, and better yet faith/hope?! Almost seems like a joke to her & nothing was wrong by the end when she BEARLY lost any weight.. i hope things change for her if/when shw watches herself & can reflect on things. SO sad. A family and family friend have had this surgery, it by NO means was a walk in the park & they definitely had their rough days but NEVER once made excuses for themselves as to why they couldnt get their weighloss accomplished, just like anything else in life. i would say i feel sorry for her but it kind of seems as if thats what shes looking for, i truely feel sorry for her husband & son.. although her husband IS an enabler, would you want to mess up her grocery list? i would not!

  9. You don’t get her size just because she loves food. There is so much more going on with her and such cold, cruel posts will likely cause her to reach for food even more so. It is the only way she can comfort herself. If extreme obesity was simply a body problem it would be easy to treat. But it isn’t and I don’t know how anybody can attack the mentally ill. She has her issues and her behavior mirrors that of any other addict.

      • Interesting. I was very accident prone growing up only to discover later in life that it was a symptom of the dysfunctional relationship with my father. Once I began to acknowledge, address and heal those issues, I never had an accident again.

    • Agree. I am a compulsive emotional eater who was bulimic for 14 years. I have recovered after many years of a lot of inner healing using a variety of methods. Pretty disgusting to me that the show didn’t even address her mental/emotional issues.

    • I agree that people are angry and disgusted that she’s in a state of denial…but she needs a dose of tough love. Her husband Edgar is foolishly aiding and abetting her killer habit. He needs to insist that their cabinets are purged of junk and he’ll benefit with his own health improvement as there’s no excuse for him to hand her deadly meals and to deny their child healthy food; she needs to be told that she will get therapy; she will improve her attitude, act like an adult and give a damn, or he hits the road and sticks with that choice if need be; in short, he needs to grow a pair and just say “no!”

    • Yeah sure .. now let me go throw up after reading your post … She’s a selfish and lazy woman … I guess the truth hurts .

  10. I am so angry with this woman….I really hope her husband gets custody of the son and leaves to lead a healthy life without her dragging him and everyone else around her down…WHAT A WASTE OF (EVERYONE WHO WAS INVOLVED WITH THIS) TIME!!

  11. I watched the show about Penny and the more I watched, the angrier I became. What a pity-party. The biggest I have ever witnessed. I agree with every negative comment. Penny needs to be surround with people with some backbone, that are going to tell exactly what she needs to know…not po-poing everything she says. She is committing suicide right before all of our eyes. She is sick in the head…where are the mental health people? What about child protective services…does anyone care about this little boy? Her enabling husband needs his a_ _ whipped!

    • I was disgusted by this episode. Penny is a sick manipulator and her poor husband is just plain dumb. I feel sorry for Liam. I try to be positive in life and after watching this, i feel like my brain shrank a bit after 60 minutes of watching this woman kill herself. What a waste of time and money. I say let her eat herself sikky.

    • I have to agree, where is child protection? this is abuse, she couldn’t help him if he really hurt himself at home and she was the only one there, and the mental abuse he must feel and hear her talk so degrading to Edgar when she needs something, she makes me sick, the only nickname she has for Liam is a food name like Nugget, of course it’s about food, but Liam is also lacking in vitamins, I never once saw them have a salad or fruit, and I also feel sorry for the dog, I’m sure he never gets out for a walk or to be played with, they need love and attention too!!! what a waste.

  12. As soon as I saw her refusing to walk after the surgery, I knew she was going to fail.

    The doctor should have insisted that she must walk on her own before giving her the surgery.

    After all, he insisted that she lose 40 pounds first and she did it..

    But yeah, I know, she stuck to a diet before surgery then didn’t after, so even if she had been made to walk before surgery she probably would have still claimed she was too sore to walk after.

    Some people truly want to change, but aren’t willing to work hard to get there.

    • She actually didn’t “stick to diet” before the surgery…she was in the hospital being FED a 1200 cal a day diet…it wasn’t her own effort. So, when the doc said, “Penny has proven she can lose weight,” I was all whaaaaaaat? That wasn’t HER doing it. Sighhh…sad story. Very frustrating.

  13. It angers me that she gets to stay home and collect disibility that I contribute to by working while she lays in that bed 24/7 and eats herself to death. Her comment about being able to spend more time with her kid than working mothers was an insult to me. It’s cause she can’t get out of bed and frankly I don’t think she really wants to. Who would when you can collect free money from us working mothers who get to spend less time with our kids. I think she is a poor excuse for a mother and her attitude stinks.

  14. I have not had surgery but a month ago I started eating healthier and going to the gym and so far 10 lbs down. I am working towards a goal. I watched the episode with Penny and I was very disturbed by her behavior! She blames everyone but herself! The episode with Olivia I actually cried happy tears for her and I wish her the best.

    • Congrats and good luck! BTW, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is very helpful for overcoming food cravings. And also for dealing with emotional issues that might be at the core of emotional eating. It’s simple and effective. There are videos on YouTube.

  15. Dear Penny….I truly felt sorry for you, your family, BUT most of all,,,for your son,
    who is not going to be able to have you there to
    SEE HIS ACHIEVEMENTS IN SCHOOL,
    COMFORT HIM WHEN HE NEEDS YOU,
    BE AT HIS GRADUATION,
    MEET THE GIRL HE DECIDES TO MARRY,
    TO DANCE AT HIS WEDDING ,,,,,,,,,,
    AND all because YOU LOVE FOOD & ATTENTION,,,,,
    MORE THAN YOU DO HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I can hear you shouting your denial….BUT,,,,,,,,,
    OH YES YOU DO LOVE IT MORE THAN HIM !!!!!!!!!!!
    Your lack of appreciation of your surgeon & all that was & is being done for you,,,cost you my sympathy.
    Time to GROW UP & get your life together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Start including daily prayer for this to happen,,,

    • Your post has some good points, but it’s a bit high handed for you to suggest prayer for someone you don’t know. The woman does need a kick in the butt, but perhaps she’s not even religious.

  16. Penny, unlike most of these posts, I want to thank you. Often times we don’t see ourselves as others see us and I am no exception. While weight is not a big problem for me, I have begun to get lazy and make excuses for not accomplishing things I SHOULD accomplish. Each year I make resolutions that are never kept. But I can always justify myself. I’m very sorry that this surgery didn’t provide you with the results you had hoped. That being said, I think you should watch your episode over and over so that you can see yourself as the rest of us saw you. Whenever I feel lazy, or find myself making excuses for my behavior, I watch your episode to get me back on track. The only thing I hope you will give some thought to is this; If something were to happen to your husband, who would care for you? You can’t seriously expect your son to roll you over and place a bed pan under you? And if you have no caretaker, you will find yourself in a nursing home ringing for a nurse that may not come. What an awful life that would be. I’m sad that you have made so many excuses that you are not finding hope. Please remember “can’t” means “won’t”. But for me, your journey has helped me a lot.

    • I read through dozens of judgmental and cruel comments before I read one comment the showed any empathy.

      Just because a doctor cannot figure it out does not mean there is not something valid preventing progress. For example the position her legs were in when she tried to stand. How could she be expected to walk with the masses of flesh hangining between her legs.
      Her father’s abuse taught her a life long lesson in learned helplessness.
      All these wicked posts are examples of more cruelty. Shame on all of you!

      • And how is having masses of flesh hanging between her legs the Drs. problem? It’s HER problem. She is an adult. She needs to grow up. She may not be able to change the past but she can try and not let that predict her future. How many of us have had shitty childhoods and such but we don’t sit around feeling sorry for ourselves by eating ourselves to death. There comes a time when you have to take control of your life and that is EXACTLY what she needs to do now. She is so used to the poor Penny pity party that it may be hopeless at this point. She is absolutely clueless and doesn’t seem like she wants it any other way.

  17. I had the sleeve surgery on October 23, 2013. It is PHYSICALLY IMPOSSIBLE to eat the amount of food Penny ate after surgery. This woman HAD TO HAVE FORCED herself to eat. You become physically ill and uncomfortable when you eat that much.

    I have lost 60 lbs since the surgery, and I had to lose 20 before, have a psychological test, and meet other requirements. Penny is the type of person who talks a good game, but MEANS NOTHING she says. Saying she was mis-weighed proves she will NEVER take responsibility for her issues. She is that weight because she WANTS to stay fat and have people feel sorry for her. She has munchhausen syndrome and wants to be babied. Idiot.

  18. I normally feel terrible for the individuals that struggle with obesity…especailly to that degree. Most of the people the show chronicle work hard, put in their fair share, and really want to loose the weight and regain their lives. I dont feel that Penny really wants to be normal. Her attitude was ghastly, she is completley delusional, and she really was quite rude. I can’t imagine why you would want to live life that way…going to the toilet in your bed, painful sores everywhere, no intimacy between you and your husband, needing 10 people to carry you out of your apartment on a tarp like a whale….it baffles me.

    Penny is very unlikeable. I very rarely use strong language like this…but it has to be said.

  19. Thank you Kathleen for your insight into what plagues most of us: excuses in areas of our lives that could be better but aren’t.

  20. I too believe Penny has munchhausens and wonder IF she has ever had psychiatric counseling especially since her sisters related her having to deal with abuse in childhood. Can they convince her of the need? NO ONE is happy “living?” life the way she does. She has to be extremely afraid of letting go of what/where she is “comfortable”.
    What is SO sad is all she is missing out on !!!

    • Katrina, it was my biggest question. Knowing people who had LapBand surgery made me wonder if the network just didn’t show the psychological counseling in the final edit. My friends had to see a counselor before the surgery to determine if it would be a waste of everyone’s time and money. Perhaps that is why Penny only found one doctor to do the operation.

      • I work for a bariatric surgeon – I think a lot of people are able to smooth talk their way through the psych exam. Surgery is a TOOL- not a miracle cure to help you loose weight.

    • I tend to agree with the Munch diagnosis/ Especially the part where Dr N is like why in the world are you on oxygen? Your pulse/ox is fine, he said it was better than his. Shes on O2 because she wants to be??????? unless you have some kinda sick medical fetish it has to be Munch.

  21. What a joke!! That loser wanted a quick fix and wants to do NO work to fix the problem that SHE created. What a waste of doctors time and I’m sure our tax payers dollars! I feel sorry for the kid what an embarrassment of a mother!! She disgust me

  22. Penny is not a patient that would have received surgery under normal circumstances. She had a completely obstinate attitude toward the doctor and the process.

    However….personally, I place a bit of blame on the doctor, 530 lbs is too heavy for a sleeve. RNY or Duodenal switch would have done so much better for her. She needed much more restriction and malabsorption. I hope after some time, Penny will consider a revisional surgery. For a person who cannot walk and expend energy, giving her a surgery that requires physical movement to keep losing is a mistake.

    • Not necessarily true about the physical movement, she could have moved. I watched a show some years ago about morbidly obese people. One of the stories was of a bed ridden grandmother. She didn’t have surgery, all she did was eat better and she would watch Richard Simmons workout videos and clap to the music. Considering she was completely immobile for so long, just sitting there clapping her hands raised her heart rate enough to give her an aerobic workout. By the end of the episode the woman was completely mobile and showed her outside playing with her grandkids. Penny could have done a form of exercise even though she was stuck in bed, and if she would have cooperated with her physical therapist and stuck to her diet to lose weight she would have been able to attend her sons kindergarten graduation and her story could have been a success.

    • My thoughts exactly! I was wondering why he just didn’t do a DS? BUT at this point – I don’t think SHE wants to change. Going in and doing stage 2 (the DS) would be simple- BUT not if she doesn’t want to change!

  23. Penny is in the situation she is in because of her choices. Period. Her husband is definitely enabling her, probably because he is afraid of her, and quite frankly, he appeared ignorant. Anyone who fries up a batch of won-tons and says ‘it must be better than food we could buy’, and then serve up 15 of them to her, along with whatever else, is dumb, plain and simple.

    What did it for me was when she came home to the apartment and complained because her bed was not front and center to the TV, and said she felt like she was excluded. Poor Penny! Perhaps you could get out of that bed and actually walk to the living room? If her husband had any sense at all, she would have to get up and get what she wanted above and beyond the recommended diet, and the choices would be limited.

    I noticed that the one person who was most concerned for her appeared to be held at a distance – her sister. Penny obviously does not like to hear the truth, and can’t accept it when she does hear it. If you get a chance to change your life like she did and you don’t do a doggone thing with it, then you don’t WANT to change.

    I am glad that I saw that episode though – it makes me appreciate how much effort the other people I have seen them profile have put into their journey and it helps to motivate me to continue on my own journey, albeit on a much smaller scale.

    You are the sum total of your choices and your actions in life (if this is the only thing I can instill in my kids, I will be happy). If you blame others for your problems, or expect them to fix your problems, you give away control. Make a choice to stay the way you are, or make a choice to change and use all the tools you are blessed to be given. If it takes you the rest of your life, you are still trying. Some people don’t get any help with their struggles. I will give you all the kudos I can spare if you are working toward your goals, but I don’t have an ounce of pity for someone who won’t help themselves.

    I really was hoping for some sort of follow-up at the end of the episode – you know these are taped months in advance – I am curious where she is today. (Is it me, or did this show follow people for multiple years last season?)

    • Last season they were followed for 7 years. This season didn’t start filming till 2012, that’s why it’s a shorter time frame. I was a little disappointed about that, I liked watching till the end of their journey to see the end result. Maybe they’ll have a follow up episode later.

  24. I am so pissed off about this woman, that I taped the episode so that I could quote some of the highlights of her episode. I am directly speaking to you, Penny and Edgar. So, listen up.

    The first thing that got to me was her explanation of a day in the life. “This is my bed, this is my bathroom, this is my dinner table” she explains. Well firstly, if you don’t want to do this for yourself, at least do it for poor Edgar, who loves you unconditionally. That is apparent since he cleans up your shit and piss, which I imagine is a bunch given how much you are eating. How dare you do this to another human being. Drag them into your gluttonous abyss. .Have some pride. Not even a dog will shit where it eats. I partially blame Edgar because he brings the stuff into the house. I guarantee, if you get hungry enough, a salad and a chicken breast would taste mighty delicious. Edgar, you have to quit bringing the junk into your home. Liam is going to follow in his mother’s footsteps if some lifestyle changes are not made. As far as Penny being “mad” or “upset” with you for not buyiing the junk she wants, too bad! What is she going to do? Chase you around the house with a frying pan??

    I hear excuses being made for you, Penny. And it’s apparent that you are manipulating and controlliing everyone around you. I’m not buying what you are trying to sell. You are spoiled and you use food as an excuse for sympathy and attention. Alot of people, including myself, had a crappy childhood. Get over it. You are not special. There’s a kazillion people in the world who have endured much more than you. Get over yourself.

    (More later, since I’m only 15 minutes into the replay and I’m getting more pissed by the minute)..

    • wow, Julie…you said everything my husband and I was saying during the entire show. We couldn’t believe she wanted to stop at a fast food restaurant on the way to the hospital and when Edgar ordered a grilled sandwich, she yelled “crispy”. She comes off as a lazy woman who’d rather lie in bed all day, eat and enjoy life being catered to, while living on gov’t assistance…at the expense of not being able to attend her son’s school events, etc. SAD!!

    • If you think having her bed as the bathroom is that terrible…she may use it as her maxi pad or her tampon. Imagine what Edgar has to go through when it’s Penny’s “time of the month,” especially on her heavy days.

  25. After watching this episode and reading thru most of the comments here, I have very mixed emotions. I feel the most for her son. That little boy should never have to endure this kind of foul behavior from his parents. He most likely will lose his mother at a very early age, how heart breaking.

    One of the things that stick in my head the most is that Penny and her family supposidly took money from family, friends, and even neighbors, all in hopes that she could get the help she needs. To refuse to even sit up after surgury is beyond disrespectful to those people who gave up their own hard earned money. Not to mention the fact she is recieving disability and free medical insurance from the government. No doubt tax payers paid and continues to pay ALL of her medical bills as I would assume are approved and paid for as medically necessary.

    Overall, I’m glad that TLC aired this episode. Many people are in Penny’s same position mentally and physically. These people and people in their lives could use a reality check. Weight loss surgery, as most surgeries, are not easy and are painful, requiring recovery. Not everyone will succeed because not everyone has a strong enough backbone. Props to all the other show participants who found and had one. Penny is a prime example as to why there truly is not quick fix to weight loss, not even surgery. Overall good episode even though Penny herself agreeably has a world of issues.

    • Thanks Jordana. I agree that the show can help others, whether it’s with obesity or other problems that never seem to get solved, at the expense of loved ones.

      • Lucky for him she won’t live that long .. I know that’s hard to say , but he will grow up miserable and an enabler if she does live long … I want a better life than that for him .. A better life than what his mother wants for him .

  26. I am always bothered by reality shows such as this that don’t address the person’s mental/emotional issues. She should have had her head examined before anything else. To first determine if she really had the motivation and will to follow through, and second as a crucial part of the healing journey. Deep seated psychological issues are at the core of emotional eaters (I know because I am a recovered compulsive emotional eater), especially those who get to be this overweight. I cannot fathom how anyone could expect someone to lose the weight and keep it off w/o addressing this first and foremost. Without it, these shows are simply exploitive and irresponsible.

    • Well said Cathy. It has been a question for me since watching the show. As I’ve written elsewhere in replies to comments here, I thought that was a requirement, but perhaps it was edited it out by the network.

  27. This episode just blew my mind. However in the opening credits the show says the people undergoing this procedure have less than a 5%? chance of sucess. Perhaps she’s part of that 5%. What really struck me is how nice and constructive the people commenting are! We’ve all struggled with food and its great to see such a supportive community. Its a shame Penny doesn’t know how to reach out and embrace HEALTHY support. She said my husband loves me unconditionally. Penny that is fear NOT love. Im deeply sorry you were abused as a child but realize you are in turn hurting your own son. He doesnt understand how normal relationships work. He’ll lose you soon and resent you because you did it to yourself. When you have a child you can’t be a child yourself. Its grossly unfair to subject him to the dailey show of your slow suicide.

  28. I wonder if this episode was aired by TLC in hopes that the backlash would be the motivation that Penny needs to lose the weight. We all march to a different drummer. God bless Penny and her family.

  29. I was so angry watching this episode and seeing how Penny manipulated everyone and got all this wonderful help and she was rude, ignorant, and did not care!!!! Then she’s using all this government assistance to lay in bed all day on the phone and computer! She’s obviously on pain meds too because she kept closing her eyes and slurring her words, and in her hospital room the dry erase board said pain management consultation both times she was there! All she did was complain about pain so she’s an addict! I really hope her son doesn’t have to suffer anymore and can go and live with one of her sisters who can actually care for him properly.

  30. I am sickened by Penny! I was so sickened that I watched it twice and then was mad at myself! Oh the eating and food prep in that bed where she takes a crap, a bath and a pee! The licking of fingers just one more time! The refusal to exercise in bed because it “will cut off my oxygen” – the Oxygen that the Dr said she doesn’t need! Did anyone else notice that Penny’s voice was thin and shaky when someone such as the Dr required something of her but loud and happy and forceful when she was getting her way? Oh yes I have seen many people like Penny and some of them only weigh 100 lbs! Sick! I have known lickspittles like Edgar also and I wish he would get some help! Sweet guy but doesn’t have a clue – Do you want some ice cream Penny? Yuck, I feel sick every time I think of her taking a crap in that bed!

    • I thought it was funny when the dr. had the oxygen turned off and she said she was getting light headed BUT according to the machine behind her, her oxygen was still at 98%. Clearly some of her problems are mental.

  31. my husband and I couldn’t believe the attitude/behavior of this woman. Penny obviously doesn’t have a problem being morbidly obese, catered to and lying in a bed all day. I believe she’s gotten accustomed to that lifestyle and believes more would be expected of her (like cooking, cleaning and possibly even working a job, etc.) and she’d rather have her husband be her caretaker and collect disability for the rest of her life. It’s sad, but realistically that’s how it came off to the me as a viewer. What’s so unfortunate about this entire story is that she can’t attend any of her son’s school events and he’s only 5. This was one of the saddest and most upsetting episodes to date!

  32. I have watched my 600 pound life because seeing the people make positive changes is always uplifting. The episode with Penny made me so angry this woman was given an opportunity not only to help herself but to help her family as well and she chose to throw it away. I think the most disgusting part was watching her prepare food in the bed that she uses as a toilet that gave me dry heaves.

    In all fairness change is difficult and Penny is not ready to that. Hopefully she can make changes before it is too late. I am working on losing 15 pounds and it’s hard! My doctor explained to me the challenge of losing weight is because all the sugars manufactures put in foods . Addictions are hard to break I am not excusing Penny because she has the best reason in the world to make changes her son Liam.

  33. Wow. Well- I typically am not one to comment on a television show, however this one blew my mind. My husband and I watched this episode on Penny and could not believe what we saw. Now I am not an over weight person nor my husband, so -no I do not know what it’s like to be in those shoes. I can only imagine for anyone struggling with weight issues what it’s like- HOWEVER in Penny’s extreme case- this is not just a little overweight. She’s highly obese and I can’t believe how her attitude was. The first thing someone should have done was get her mental health evaluated because I think that was the root of her problems. Her husband was an enabler and the worst part of everything is that a CHILD has to grow up in that environment. No child should have to see his mother like that. I firmly believe someone should have knocked some sense into her husband and told him to leave with the child. At least go away for a while and show her what she will lose if she does not better herself. Because ultimately she will lose them when she loses her life because she didn’t try hard enough. This lady sits on a high horse and expects people to do and please her every demand. Life does not work that way. To get anything worth while in this life it’s hard work. Her answer was not gastric bypass. Her answer is her attitude and if she had the ” can do and I’m ready for a change attitude” in conjunction with the gastric I believe she would have had results. I understand tv shows can be edited to look a certain way sometimes, but let’s get real. Penny really did not follow instructions… Had an enabler for a husband and clearly did not want it bad enough. God bless the Dr. Who really did try and help. It really makes me the most sad for the child at hand. While this episode really upset me, all you can really do for people like her is pray. Lord knows she needs it. Wishing her a change and some determination in her life to better herself and be a better example and mother to her child.

  34. what upset me the most is she had no goals or ambition. my belief is she is so afraid to fail that setting goals would only remind her of failing when she doesn’t reach them. from personal experience of losing 40 pounds in the past, it is hard work but it is worth it, and you have to set goals. it does take physical exercise and choosing healthier food choices. even in her bed she could do upper body exercises to help herself, but we don’t see that in the show. there is no magic fix. if you want to lose weight it’s going to be hard and takes determination! now if she was depressed that could explain for lack of motivation but there are remedies for that. all I seemed to hear throughout was a bunch of excuses and distorted negative thinking patterns and blaming other people or circumstances for why she couldn’t lose weight. if someone wants to lose weight bad enough they will. come on, the claim that the scale was wrong when initially weighed? that’s just another excuse/lie in order to shift the blame somewhere else. it couldn’t possibly be her fault she’s not losing weight! I feel sad for her and cant imagine the amount of physical and emotional pain she’s in but I believe she is in denial and doesn’t have a healthy positive mind set to succeed. it will be a long almost impossible road for her with her current defeated mindset.

  35. She was like “I was so happy when you said you’d help me” to the doctor… I I guess she thought was going to happen was that the doctor was going to touch her forehead and BOOM her ass would be gone!

  36. Penny AND her husband are a JOKE. Disability my rear end. Is, WAS, and always will be LAZY. It makes me CRAZY that she was given this opportunity and has abused it when soooooo many would flourish if given the opportunity. Gastric bypass is not the “quick fix”. They operate on your stomach, not your head. Penny’s issues go beyond her weight. If she won’t accept psychiatric help, then let her do herself in. Her husband and child are victoms of this rediculous situation. MANY, MANY people have success with gastric bypass. One of them is writing this blog. I KNOW SHE WAS GIVEN A DIET. She’s not fooling anyone. She’s NEVER TAKEN THE BLAME for anything her entire life and it seems that she never will. I only hope that more resources and energy are not afforded her way. She WANTS TO BE FAT PEOPLE. PERIOD. SHE LIKES IT. IT’S HER HIGH.

    • Your right!! & for her to try the pull they sympathy card when do many people struggle with weight and actually try to change makes me so mad…her husband needs to quit enabling her…she’s gonna die and doesn’t care..she has a sport system but instead of doing the right thing she tries to play the victim. ..In my eyes only victim in that home is the son….and she doesn’t exceed half the mothers I know in a year of what they do for their kids in a week!!

  37. All I have to say is f you penny…I’m a single mom and take care of kid never missed a school event and I work full time…I have no sympathy for you…your poor son…you are a total waste and you really passed me off with your exceeding most mothers comment…you might as well start eating your arms and legs until you’ve consumed your self. Quit begging for sympathy because your a piece of crap!!!

  38. What a waste of doctor’s time, effort, tax payers money and here friends and families donations. She expected a quick fix without any efforts from her side. What I don’t understand is, why is her husband still catering to her needs of all that bad food. Just don’t give her anything else but healthy food. She can not get up and open the fridge to get all the bad food by her self… I know she will be bitching and will be an even more unpleasant person as she already is. But, what is she going to do? Leave her husband? Pffffffff…. Her ass is way to fat to live on her own. Should she bitch at him, he should just close the door and let her sit in her own crap. If I would be her caregiver, she would not behave like that. Maybe she would but I would not care and just give her the diet she is supposed to eat. Again, what is she going to do other than bitch…. Same way with the physical therapist and the nutritionist. Penny was so rude to them. I know they have to be professional but they were too carful to tell Penny and her husband what to do. Penny will never loose the weight until she may realizes that SHE is the only person who can help her self. Surgery is not a quick fix, it is like the jumper cable for the car battery to get the engine started. The battery will charge only when you keep the car running. I was reading here that people say that they can’t believe that Penny does not have any goals. That is normal for quitters. The pretend they would not ever have a personal goal. That way they do never have to admit their failure. I feel sorry for her son who lives life like he is in a prison and his fat mom is the warden. I would recommend a divorce but I think Penny will eat her self to death…. This problem will be solved by Penny but other than she thought….

    • I agree, this woman is a disgusting joke. I can’t even believe anyone on this site is making excuses for her because “they didn’t address the mental part”. How do they even know that? This woman is sick, what she’s doing to her son and her husband is sick and it’s abuse. She’s a disgusting human being, an animal. She’s the kind of person that make other obese people look bad, she’s the person that I think of when I see fat people. I thought we were going to see her change and it was going to be a good show. Unfortunately, I had to watch her sit there and blame everyone else and there mother, except herself. She sat there and said she was going to be there for her son, but she couldnt. So she made the excuse that oh well most mothers work so i get to spend time with my son that most mothers dont we all make sacrifices. Does she even realize the serious emotional damage she’s doing to her poor son? NO she doesnt, because shes a selfish weirdo. I work at a detox center and she’s 100 times worse than any drug addict i’ve ever met. This woman should win an award. I think at this point there’s no hope. So many people were trying to help her, and she had the nerve to blame them. I think she should be shot, it’d do her son and husband a favor and get them out of that cycle of abuse, plus us tax payers wont have to pay for her medical bills considering she doesn’t plan on ever helping herself. She had her 1 chance and ruined it for no good reason. She’s disgusting. Just look at last nights episode with Chuck, he had his 1st wife and his so called “best friend” murdered and he overcame that, and his episode was really inspiring. That woman is a disgrace to any person thats ever had a bad childhood, to use that as an excuse as to why you’re obese ew ew ew. I’ve met so many people at the detox centre who’ve been abused, and although that’s the reason why they cover up their pain with drugs, they never used it as an excuse, they knew they were wrong regardless of their childhood. this woman is sick and abusive, she should go to jail.

  39. Penny’s thinking is analogous to the person who drives the wrong way on a busy street and wonders why everybody else is driving the wrong way and is honking their horns at her.

  40. I think Penny wasn’t ready from t h e get go. She wanted sympathy and everything done for her. I viewed her as lazy and used her weight as an excuse. If you are given the chance like she had she should h ave given it her all. Her husband v and was no help either. I kinda was mad at the end. She had so many resources at her disposal and she laughed them off. Boo to her.

  41. I jus saw this episode and I am speechless. Where do I start… My mom is over weight. Has struggled most of her adult life with weight and at 75 reached her highest point ever and has fraught through weightwatches to loose it. Here’s the thing though; my mother has worked her entire life fought to teach her children to eat bttr and be healthier. She’s been a mother a teacher and a fighter. This woman, Penny possesses none of these traits. Her parenting is abussive because she is not able to be a real mother. She is selfish and rather than creating a bttr life for her child chooses to manipulate him and those around her. Her entire family is idly sitting by allowing this little boy to live under these conditions. Dad spends most of the day catering to her who is catering and nurturing this little person? I am disgusted with her attitude and extreme selfishness and upset that my tax dollars go to pay for her to stuff her face.

  42. I would have thought that the nutritionist/dietitian should have been involved from the get go. With her attitude which appalled me, if her attitude and comments about the diet she would need be on were said at the beginning then it should have been NO GO!. We only “help” those who want and will help themselves.

    Lady, what a horrible example for your son and your husband IS AN ENABLER!!!

    He needed to be advised about her diet away from her especially when her attitude & comments were noted. If the nutritionist/dietitian would have met with him to advise what and how to provide healthy food for ALL of the family and he knew what healthy foods to prepare & if she was unhappy then she could get her FAT ASS out of the bed & walk to kitchen and cook for herself!

    Rant over!

  43. I was mad too. Like an alcoholic spiraling out of control and unable to see the destruction all around them. It’ll take a crisis for Penny to get with the program. Let’s hope it’s not a fatal final one for her. I was angry all the way through and kept hoping for her to see the light. By the end I felt pity for her. To be satisfied living your life from a bed is just too sad.

  44. The way I understand it, there is a vigorous process, including physical and mental evaluations prior to bariatric surgery. It was obvious to me that Penny has mental health issues. Her innappropriate reactions and statements as well as her crippling denial should have been addressed before the surgery. The person who will ultimately suffer the most from this dysfunctional dependent/co-dependent relationship is the son.

    • Someone made a comment regarding Penny should think about who would care for her if anything happened to her husband. They said “you wouldn’t want your son rolling you over and changing your bed pan would you.” I bet she would. She is that selfish. She would also think that her son wouldn’t mind because he loved her. She is selfish. Period. That poor child is doomed. He is doomed to become overweight because of his parents obvious poor judgement. He is doomed to years teasing and ridicule. He is doomed to a childhood without a mother doing the things a mother should. He is doomed to a lonely childhood because he will be too embarrassed to have friends over. He will be too embarrassed to bring a girlfriend over. And Penny, it won’t belong before he refuses to get in bed with your large sweaty rolls. Yes, he will still love you but it will be in private. And no, he won’t always be proud of you. He’s very young now. Things will change. Guaranteed.

  45. As offensive as Penny was, it became VERY apparent to me that this woman is mentally ill. She is not based in reality, she will not change and her husband is caught in a sinking ship. I just wonder what she would do if he actually walked out on her and took their son. Would she call an ambulance to come and get her? Hunt down attorneys to sue for custody? Or lay in bed and piss and crap on herself. I bet a million dollars she would get enough energy to search and entangle a whole new group of enablers to surround herself with. She is mental illness at it’s finest. As long as she gets a check and medical insurance there will be someone to “take” care of her.

  46. Her attitude was unreal. have you noticed how many spouses are pretty huge themselves? She is lazy and thinks she is a diva at 500 pounds spare me I am not one who thinks doctors are infallible but I think he knows more on what type of surgery to perform than we do

  47. Penny’s husband needs to take his son and leave her and then get counselling. He needs to learn about proper nutrition so that he can keep himself and his son healthy. That dear little boy deserves so much better than the life he has now and if something is not done quickly, he will become morbidly obese through no fault of his own. Penny should be ashamed of herself and Edgar needs a huge wake-up call. All I can say is poor Liam! My heart breaks for him.

      • so true….. Teresa i was pissed she is very selfish… she wants a damn maid, she’s lazy depression has nothing to do with her being selfish….

    • It would be interesting to know how this family survives as Edgar does not seem to work outside the home. Does the family receive social security? Medicare? Does the Maryland provide secondary insurance? Do they receive food stamps? The only way they could get to Houston would have been to rely on the kindness of family and friends as government funds would not have paid for the trip. It seems quite obvious that Penny has severe cognitive issues related to magical thinking. I know many people who think as she does. Something just does not compute in the frontal cortex, and the end result is a person unable to cope with modern life. If obesity were not killing her, something else would be. She is like the young man I knew who was upset he had been stabbed in the abdomen at a bar where he knew there was commonly trouble. Or the young female student beaten up in the girl’s room even though she had been given clear instructions not to go in it if the gang that had previously hassled her were in there. Her friend who was with her had not gone in because they saw the gang in there. Or….Or….etc. Whatever is illogical in their thinking may not be chemically or therapeutically “fixed.” They remind be of Phineas Gage. So it probably was not wrong to try to save her life; it just may be impossible. (And we may not be able to tell who is fixable at this point.) If Edgar would leave and take the child with him, maybe we would find out if she would choose life. Or she might just call 911. But then we have pretty much emptied our psychiatric hospitals. In the meantime, everyone seems happy enough. Her son has a father who loves him, an aunt to rely on, and a mother with whom he can visit. There are children who are much worse off than he.

      • Edgar said that they live totally on Penny’s disability, and he doesn’t work so that he can be her caregiver. I read, I think, that the surgery is paid for by whichever channel owns that show. I think, however, there should be a disclaimer in the contract, that if the client doesn’t follow protocol, then the cost of the surgery, and everything it entails, falls back on the client.

    • JAs an obese woman, i am completely disappointed in Penny. I agree 100% with the Dr. On a number of things. One being that Penny is infact very used to playing the victim. She did not own her weight issue once. I cannot fully express how angry it makes me seeing her spit on everyone who donnated their hard earned money in an effort to help save her. She doesnt seem to care about any of them enough to even make an effort to regain a life. Inside she vimitted out excuse after excuse as to why it did not work. I honestly wish someone on that episode could have called her on her behaviors. I saw nothing to cause me to see her as anything but lazy and narcissistic. That surgey could give so many others including myself the initial tool we need to regain our lives. I am saddened at the fact that such an opportunity was wasted on a person with absolutely no desire to do the work after given the biggest tool.

      • But that’s something I don’t get, her attitude never seemed to change, so it should have been obvious she wasn’t embracing the need to modify her behaviors. Especially since most providers require a psych exam before surgery, how did she fool the psychologist?

    • Penny is VERY overbearing, and I think Edgar felt her wrath if he dared not do what she wanted. She is a “woe is me” kind of person, truly in total denial. It was the scale’s fault, after all, because it wasn’t calibrated right, and therefore, didn’t give her right weight, then at the beginning, then didn’t give her right weight the few times she did keep her hospital appointments. I couldn’t stand her. I wanted to punch through my tv, hoping my fist would connect with her face, so that she could get some sense knocked into her. Did she want the surgery, or did she just want to be on tv? There should be a disclaimer in the contract they sign, that if they don’t follow protocol, then the cost of the surgery, and everything that goes along with it, then falls back on the client.

    • you do more than other mothers do, is unfounded. you could never say that. just because you have an eating addiction control it for your family if not for your self. I do not feel sorry, pitty or anything else. If you do then you will not conquer this……………………………..

      • I was so upset when she said she gives her son more than a working mom does because of her disability and if she only get the six years with her son she is okay with that because o this crazy idea she has! I’m sure her son would prefer her to be out the bed, working, and able to go outside with him or to a school event. Her husband was just agreeing with everything…he knows deep down she was not losing any weight but encouraged her crazy thinking. UGH this episode made me extremely made that I was yelling at her through my t.v. However, I do pray that she gets a reality check and lose this weight.

  48. What a selfish and lazy woman … I can’t help but think that they could have helped someone else besides this lazy person … I feel sorry for the little boy … he will be without a mother soon and that’s no one’s fault but Penny’s .

    • I feel the same way and was disgusted by her complete lack of effort, her selfishness and how she treated her husband. I think it’s a good idea that they showed this complete failure at gastric bypass though. Shows that it’s not a magic cure requiring zero effort on the part of the patient. Maybe other Pennys out there will think twice about doing it.

      • You are exactly right. Gastric Bypass is a lot of work…but in the beginning it also takes a lot to fail. Penny really had to work at it to fail. I had gastric bypass in December of 2011. I was 370lbs. I debated for 9 years before having the surgery to make sure I was ready for the long term struggle. I was. In the beginning I tried to overeat ONCE. The pain and vomiting that followed my episode of trying to overeat eating fast food will always be with me. I am at my goal weight (without skin surgery it’s prob the best I can do. I have a lot of skin especially in the lower abdomen. After the initial 100lbs came off it became harder to lose. BUT with the work put in by myself I now weigh 168lbs. I STILL see a counselor once a week. One doesn’t go from being a star athlete to almost 400 without issues. So many people need this opportunity. I was so angry at Penny’s claims that she had done all she could. HARDLY. What a pathetic woman in denial. She wastes a golden opportunity that people would literally do anything to have. It makes me so sick and angry. But as the above poster said. Weight loss surgery is not a magic wand at all and hopefully people who think it is have been taught something. Goodluck to everyone that is trying or going thru their own personal struggles.

    • A mother who doesn’t love her son enough to live,she loves food more than him. Then the jellyfish husband-Penny is like a spoiled child-temper tantrums when she doesn’t get what she wants-grow a backbone for your child’s sake-if she won’t eat what is served-walk away-with her weight she could survive months on body fat-she reminds me of gubba the hut from star wars

    • Personally I think Penny enjoys the attention of being a fat slob. I say leave her in her bed and if she wants something from the kitchen than she can get up an get it. she blames everyone else for her obesity, but as you can see when her elbow bends , her mouth opens. Shes’s demanding , selfish, inscure with major psych issues.

      • I agree….she likes people waiting on her and all the attention being on the show gave her. The comment about how she is a better mom than one who works 10 hrs a day is laughable. She is not fit to care for a child, what if her son got hurt when her husband was gone then what?

        The mental issues far out weight the obesity. We will see soon enough how she has ate herself to death with Won tons and little meatloaves made in her bed…..

      • I had gastric bypass 14 mos ago. I was just over 350 lbs. I have since lost 155 lbs. Penny makes me sick….and I was actually praying the end of this show they would say she died.
        She is selfish and pathetic! She is ok with the attention she gives her son??? I had my surgery for ME first and my kids second. I didn’t just talk the talk like she did. I eat healthy, I gave up all that crap….I not only walk, but I run!!! Screw her. I hope she suffocated to death on her fat …that would be the best thing for her son….

      • She kept repeating she was a good mother and her son loves her ….What will happen when she is in that bed pooping and peeing when his friends/girlfriends come over in a few years …..I also believe that her husband should take the boy and put her in a nursing home …..What a selfish person

  49. I can not watch her show again. I caught her story twice and each time I got more ticked off than the time before.. First it really pissed me off her using her past as a reason why. Guess what? I can give you a story about a bad life with beatings and sexual molestation, being burnt with cigarettes and hit with brushes, belts, dishes, whatever happened to be close that they could hurt you with including irons and all by the hands of parents and their friends that they passed you off to do the same. it did not make me choose her lifestyle.so her using her life to try to make excuses just pisses me off. More importantly that she is choosing this shit over her son… you know what having my first child did? Made me immediately get therapy before he was born out of fear I would not know how to parent a child with what me and my siblings had to go through. I made that choice no one else so please spare me the pity party. She wasted everyone’s time and an opportunity for someone who really needed it get it done. She also gambled with her entire family’s money. She is a fat, lazy slob that should have her child taken away because of her and her husbands inability to care for another person properly.. All hail queen penny from where she sits upon her throne.. just a blob of a waste of life.

  50. Penny is is an immature, spoiled, brat who as gotten use to getting what she wants, when she wants! Shame on you Mom and Husband, you don’t love her because you are buying her a one way ticket to her grave with every fast food meal you get her! She really was not ready for this phase about losing weight! She wasted a month in the hospital on a 1000 calorie a day diet and she lost a big whopping 4lbs. Mom and Husband did it again, they ate her hospital food and they sneaked in fast food to her. I can’t believe she didn’t know that she actually gained weight and then blamed it on the scales not being right . Always someone else’s problem it’s not her! She wasted most of that year when someone who is ready and needs to have it could have while she laid up in that bed and wouldn’t even try to do what’s right ! Penny Shame On You!!

  51. I was very confused when the nurse said she was on a 1200 calorie diet and she commented I didn’t know I had to lose weight here, and the doctor has to get his poop in a group or I will order something, what did she think she was there for? I give the doctor a lot of credit, he tried everything, I just don’t understand who pays for all the trips back and forth to the hospital in a ambulance where they have to even block the road off!!!I would be so embarrassed looking like a beached whale and then making jokes to these paramedics that are working their asses off and she lays there laughing, and I think she can get up and walk a little but wouldn’t do it because it might mess with her disability, because when she had to transfer to the stretcher and she stood up by the door way and turn she sure had no trouble getting her fat ass around the corner. because it had to be done. I do believe Edgar and Liam should leave her and say “fend for yourself” “when you can, call us” I bet she move her ass real quick to that kitchen. sorry but she just angers me!!!!!

    • I am angry after watching this but I don’t really think I have a right to judge. My eating habits aren’t the best but I’m not overweight by any means. I know what it’s like to grow in a less than perfect reality. I’ve struggled with trying to keep weight on because of stress and anxiety but my children and my husband make it easier. I want to be there for them there’s no excuse to deprive you’re child of the parent they deserve. So what if you had it rough as a child use that as your motivation to make your child’s life better. I overcame without counseling and was the first person in my family to finish high school and graduate college. I don’t think I deserve an award, I’m just saying why wouldn’t you want better for your child stop being selfish. Her husband needs to put some fear in her leave for a few weeks. I bet she would shape up then. I need to stop judging and pray for her and her family because she definitely needs it.

  52. a lot of you say maybe she should of had mental health help first, but she would have found fault with them just like she did the nutritionist and physical therapist, she didn’t want to hear anything they had to say!!! I laughed when she yelled out to the nutritionist that Liam only like cupcakes and not candy or cookies, and he yelled “yes I do, I like cookies” right there you’re telling you’re son to lie, but they knew her lies way before that anyway, how can you have your husband clean your ass on television? and act like it’s all normal? ick

  53. So unbelievably selfish and lazy. Her kid deserves better. She chooses to waste her life. Constantly lie about her eating and is going to destroy a wonderful young childs life when he watches herself unnecessarily die. And that father needs a slap around the face. What a useless prick. When she dies he will have played an equal part in the role.
    No excuses for these two as parents. Absolutely disgusting.

    • So many of you on here have commented about Edgar, the husband. You couldn’t tell he has a low self esteem? You couldn’t tell he doesn’t talk back to Penny? She is SO narcissistic, she is such a bully that he is afraid to talk back to her, for fear of feeling her wrath. And, so many of the commenters have said he should leave, and take Liam. Edgar is living off of Penny’s disability. He doesn’t have a job, but while he was doing his errands for Penny, he should have been job hunting, so that he and Liam could leave. Maybe them leaving would force the selfish prig Penny to do things on her own, because, while she can boss Edgar around, she doesn’t have to do anything on her own. I just got through reading her follow up. It sounds good. She says she’s exercising, seeing her physical therapist, walking, etc. But, she claimed she was doing those things in her episode, too, and we all know she wasn’t doing jack. Penny isn’t much of a mom, for lying about what Liam does and doesn’t like to eat, and for not trying to lose weight so she will be around for Liam. But, she isn’t much of a wife to Edgar, either, for turning him into a spineless nothing, making him do things he didn’t want to do. I can’t stand spineless men, but I can’t also stand bullies, narcissists, and Penny is a bully and a narcissist.

  54. I just watched the episode about Penny in it and I was absolutely disgusted with her laziness! I don’t think people should be able to get disability because they choose not to control their eating or get some form of exercise. I agree that she seems to enjoy having the paramedics and firefighters coming in to take her out on an extra wide stretcher and close off the street. She seems to like the attention. She and her husband are in serious denial and she will be dead soon if she doesn’t change her ways which according to the show she isn’t going to change her ways. She behaved like a spoiled brat especially when she told the nurse she didn’t know she had to lose weight when she came in to the hospital. She expected the surgery to be a magic solution..even if it was and she lost all of the weight I’m sure she would have put in back on.

    • I totally agree with you that a lazy slob like Penny shouldn’t be able to get disability simply because they’re too lazy to try to walk, or because they’re morbidly obese by their own doing. My friend of 43 yrs passed away last week. She was on disability, too, but I have the same condition she got disability for, and I’m able to function. My mom had numerous medical problems, plus she was confined to a wheelchair. Although she was collecting regular social security, she tried to see if she could get off of that and collect disability, and she couldn’t. Someone who seriously needed disability, and couldn’t get it. Mom wasn’t lazy. She couldn’t do anything for herself…I had to do everything for her. Makes you wonder how people can collect disability when they don’t need it, when others who do need it can’t get it.

      • I cannot express how much people like her frustrate me. They CHOSE to over eat, and chose to not accept help, and get disability because of their bad decisions. I have severe scoliosis that affects my lungs, heart, and it’s so bad that if I hit a speed bump too fast, I could become paralyzed. Yet I can’t seem to get disability because, as the judge said, I “look healthy”. But my neighbor weighs 400 pounds and has diabetes and collects assistance. It’s not like my poor decisions led to me having scoliosis. Why the fuck can’t I get some help? I hate what this world has come to.

  55. Sadly, Penny will not read these comments. If she should stumble across them, she will have a pity party of major proportions. She lies to herself, her doctors and seems to relish in the attention she gets. She states that “it’s hard not to be there” your choice Penny, good thing you can wash your own vagina now. What an accomplishment! How degrading that that is your only achievement. No sympathy for you

  56. I think some of these husbands LIKE their wives obese, and sabotage their successful weight loss on purpose. There is a certain population of “fat-lovers” out there who are sexually attracted to extremely large women, and they secretly fear their wives losing any weight & becoming skinnier will make them lose their sexual attraction for them. Perhaps there’s a tinge of “If she gets thin, other men will find her attractive & I might lose her,” too. I feel these men might have their own self-esteem issues, which could be why they chose obese women in the first place–because they would never leave them. (After all, who else would want them, right?) Also, these insecure men can remain the “most attractive one” in the couple, as long as they help maintain their wife’s obesity. At any rate, losing love/attraction for a woman because she goes from fat to thin is as awful as losing interest in a previously thin woman who gains weight . . . you either love a person or you don’t, size notwithstanding. Shame on these men who are not more loving & supportive of their spouses when they need them the most.

  57. What a waste!!!! I can not watch her episode ever again. The other people yes, but Penny NO!!! She just needs to die. Sorry if that is blunt but doesn’t deserve to have a husband and a child. She only cares about herself. The husband needs to tell her to get up and get her own food, He needs to get a job and stop living off her disability. I hope they never show her again and that Penny reads these comments.

    • I am at a loss of words after watching this episode. This woman lives in an alternate universe, one where she see herself as a victim. She is a master manipulator and needs to face her reality…she is her own worst enemy. How could she allow her neighbors and family to fundraise for her trip and ultimately do nothing to adhere to the program that would have enabled her to lose weight. It is a sad situation, her husband who is her sole caregiver and her son who will not grow up with a mother. Penny needs counseling and some tough love.

      • I didn’t see where her neighbors and family fund raised for her trip. I thought I read that whatever channel owns that show paid for the surgery, but maybe I just imagined that. IF the show does pay for that surgery, there should be a disclaimer that the patient follow the protocol to a tee, and if they don’t, the cost of the surgery, and everything it entails, should be paid for by the patient. Since she didn’t lose but 40 lbs., and since she isn’t following the eating regimen like she should in order to lose weight, the neighbors and family should demand their money back.

        • Right, but it’s no different than the panhandler on a city corner asking for a few bucks. If he goes and buys something to eat, you feel you did the right thing and helped someone out, it restores your faith in doing good deeds. If on the other hand, and most likely, he just buys more crack or booze with it, you feel like a sucker, you won’t ask for it back, but you’re not as likely to fall for it again.

  58. Just like with drunks and drug addicts, they cannot be helped until they are ready to be helped. She has serious addiction and psychological problems, without addressing that first there is obviously no hope for her. As far as the husband, what can you say, very odd, he’ll just keep supplying the drug until she dies. Probably the only hope for the little boy is foster care, his environment is not conducive with nurturing a child. Maybe if he was taken away it might be the shock either of his parents needs to be brought to the realization and severity of their situation.

  59. I cant get enough of this. She is a a lazy self absorbed mess that is a product of this country’s hand out philosophy. We all have a family member or two just like this

  60. who is paying for all of this treatment, the hospital the therapy the nutritionist all of these are costly, for what, she laughs in their faces. obviously she does not want to change. and health care costs will continue to rise, because of people like her

  61. Penny is a fat loser. The real people who have this condition are people who fight for life and are to be respected! All this fraud is doing is taking people’s money to go on TV and play a victim! I have no sympathy for her. She is not trying to get up, she has food sneaked at hospital and and eats like always at home! She said she can tell exactly how many calories go into everything she makes, but if that is so how come she’s in this shape then! She is the lowest of users! The people who really want help could have had this procedure! I hope they NEVER SHOW THIS EPISODE AGAIN! Nothing but a lair and a pretender! Excuses, excuses, excuses. Don’t bring your innocent son into this! You have failed as a mother and a wife!

  62. This woman, Penny is truly a looser with a capital L and not in a good way. I never saw such denial. Any Mothering that child gets, he has to come to her bedside for it. She is NO example of a Mother and has no business comparing herself to working Mothers who also play with their kids and even go to some of the school events. As for that husband. I would not bring her a single food item she asks for. A nutritionist should have been consulted and designed a weeks worth of diet at a time, and I mean every bite weighed for carb and calorie count. All friends and relatives should be warned to NEVER bring her so much as a jellybean. This woman who can’t even walk to the pantry or fridge should have lost a LOT of weight. She was basically slopped like a farm hog by her husband, the enabler. She should just be on meat, fish, veggies, fruit and some nuts. No breads or potatoes. She WOULD loose if I had the keys to the kitchen. Even if she walked later, there would be ZERO junk food in there. Desserts should just be a little fruit and no calories Jello.

  63. I cannot believe she had the nerve to say that she gets to spend more time with her child then women who work 10 hours a day. She has life really messed up!! While I go to work for 9 hours a day (while my child is at school for 7 of them) when I get to go home WE can play at the park, go for walks, bike rides and everything else. Not to mention the weekends when my child and I are both off from work and school and I’m not stuck in a bed because I choose food over my child. Your child will hate you later in life for missing out on his. He may not realize it yet because he is still young and cannot see what a selfish hog you are. To put down working parents while you lay in a bed while your husband (who I feel so sorry for) hands you your pee pan and then instead of dumping it on you (which I would have done) is a disgrace!!! You make me so sick! You have no motivation other than to stuff that fat pie hole of yours. Keep eating and watching your son from the window and my children and I will keep living!

  64. I feel that these surgeries are probably being paid by the taxpayer. Therefore, they should have to sign a contract that they will lose weight or will have to start making payments on the huge hospital bills. Maybe that would change their minds.

  65. Most likely her medical bills are in the $100,000 to $200,000 range and like the rest of her life she takes no responsibilty for it. She is disgusting mostly for her the world owes me thinking. No one owes HER anything she owes the taxpayers since we clothe and over feed her. Her child needs to be taken away. That is not a healthy enviroment for him. She needs to lose her SSI so her lazy husband will have to get a job. And most of all TLC needs to stop showing her on TV that just feeds her warped idea that she is a celebrity and she needs to be handed a bill/diet with hard and swift consequences for not losing weight or begin to pay the bill. People do not value what they get for free.

    • While I don’t know for certain, it is likely that the subjects of the show get their medical bills paid for their participation in the show. Everyone on these reality programs gets paid. It’s just a matter of how much per episode. This show is one big infomercial for the surgeon. Notice that he is listed as an Exec. Producer.

    • I have 100k hospital bill didn’t qualify for any state aide and worked since I was 14 yrs old lost all my retirement savings to be able to pay My mortgage and still today 8 yrs later being garnished thank you penny cause at least you don’t have to pay one for your bill!!!!!!

  66. I had the gastric sleeve surgery done in August of 2013. Now while I was not as big as Penny I was 350 pounds. I had another surgery (for an injury which kept me out of the gym for probably 2 months), in October of 2013. As of today I am now down about 105 pounds. It is just amazing to me how she has not been able to drop any weight. Watching the show last night I was just in amazement at the amount of food she is still able to consume. If I were to eat that much I would be throwing up terribly.

  67. Penny appears to be one of those people who think this surgery would be a “fix” to her inability to control her bad habits…It isn’t. I had the same surgery 3 years ago and I had to re-learn how to eat and live a different lifestyle. I lost 185 lbs and have kept it off because I didn’t look for this surgery to be my miracle but as my fresh start.
    penny will NEVER lose weight as long as she refuses to stop eating so much and the wrong food.
    The surgery was a waste of money on this woman.

    • She thinks that it’s just the surgery and then she doesn’t have to do anything. She needs a REALITY CHECK. It’s not gonna be easy and won’t be served on a silver platter

  68. The whole episode just left me FRUSTRATED! After a couple of weeks with no progress, I think that the doctor should have told her :NO MORE VISITS FROM YOUR HUSBAND until you have lost 50 lbs!!!

  69. You would think her son would motivate her but she is so indenal and selfish. I give props to that Dr. I would have quit on her a long time ago . When he ask can you stand . She just says no she doesn’t even try. She misses her appointment . Ready to murder her when her husband was getting her situated and she goes why aren’t you doing this or that . If something ever happened to her husband her son would have to go live somewhere else cause she does absolutely nothing . The comment about being a better parent then one that works 10+hrs is unexceptable those see the people paying for your bills so keep talking . I know her one sister had obesity but lost her weight … You would think she wouldn’t fall into penny’s bull crap.

    • something that kills me is how she must smell. And how mentially ill do you have to be to let your husband wipe your butt, clean the poop out of all those rolls. euuhhhhh. she is the most sicking thing I have ever seen. ps she calls her son nugget..I’d watch out if I were him,
      he might just wind up a snack!

  70. Penny really, really enjoys all the attention she gets from her husband. There is no other explanation.
    Penny is such a liar she has actually convinced herself that she she is doing the right thing and that everyone else has done her wrong. I love when she says “she can pretty much calculate the calories of everything she is eating”. Ha! That must be some calculator, can I use it to do my taxes next year?
    I too am overweight and understand how difficult it is to have a food addiction. But HOW can you possibly fail when you have had free bypass surgery, a free hospital stay with someone feeding you your exact diet, a free personal trainer and NO JOB TO GO TO, SO YOU HAVE ALLLLLLLLL DAY TO EXERCISE??
    How could it be made any easier for her.
    Her husband seems like a nice guy, but is a total dope for buying into her insanity and agreeing that “the scales were wrong”. Holy delusional!
    She is a loser & a liar, I am sad for her son and am sorry someone who deserved this surgery missed out on it because of her.

  71. I think the person of Penny is far more complex than being lazy or just needing a slap. The amount of viseral hatred and lack of compassion in these posts for a woman who is as emotionally disabled as physically is sad to me. What I see is an intelligent woman who self-sabotages any hopes of normalcy and lives in denial of any self responsibility for her current sad state. There are psychological reasons for her behavior and for her paradigm, and being lazy or stupid do not fit into the equation, but are projections other place on her out of their own lack of understanding of addiction. She is surrounded by enablers who are just as caught up in her disease of food addiction as she is. The tangled web that creates a life of addiction requires more than an initial wake up call, it is a continuous and perhaps life-long struggle that requires attention to the emotional health of the addict as well as the physical aspects of addiction. I see little if any attention to the emotional aspects of healing in these programs. Self-will alone will fail for addiction most every time, even if a good dose of brutal honesty might be a start. However the nature of addiction and a lifetime of addictive behavior is no small challenge to overcome. The doctor basically gave up on her, and perhaps rightly so, was not the one to help her with her emotional problems. People who have never dealt with addiction are quick to condemn failed efforts. I do agree that enablers need counseling as much as the addict, and that this whole family needs help individually and collectively. Reality TV is after ratings, and I am sure when this family agreed to show their journey, there was a hope for success. The abject failure says more about the ineffectiveness of surgery alone as a cure for food addiction at this level.

    • Thanks Laura. It’s why I wrote the piece in the first place. The backlash began during the first airing of the program and of all the episodes this season, Penny’s story has garnered 10-15 times more comments, mostly negative of course, than any other.

    • Really??? There have been other episodes where the people actually got up and walked and were heavier than Penny. Penny is a sorry excuse. She deserves nothing!! She’s crap!!

    • You make a good point laura, but I think most of us are frustrated to see someone in total denial of their situation. I agree, the problem is an issue that pervades the whole family and they all need to be counseled if there is any hope of reaching a victim of addiction. Was there further intervention than what we see on TV? Maybe, they could do a whole series on this girl, but within the constraints of the program’s theme I guess they just decided to focus on the physical aspects of obesity and surgery.

    • Get a life she’s a conwomen who needs to be put out in the wild to fend for her self . Than I bet she would be able to stand and even walk

  72. In looking at this show and not necessarily the one in discussion, I feel the Dr. 1st should let them see a therapist and nutritionist before he starts to discuss lossing weight. This will help the client know why they r gaining weight and the nutritionist can find out what they r eating and how they prepare the food.. Put them on a diet that will be healthy and increase the clients metabolism. Maybe we dont see that part on TV but Thats what the Dr should be doing and then some.

  73. I GUARANTEE that if this woman’s financial health was contingent upon a certain amount of weight loss, she would be much more motivated to face her demons with some effort and perhaps some success. But as her case was depicted, she obviously and literally had nothing invested in being successful. Perhaps if she was expected to lose a certain amount of weight before her treatment was paid for, she would do so. Without a certain amount of weight lost, she should have been given a bill.

    My point is that non-compliance in various forms (and for whatever reason) is one of the biggest problems in western medicine. Most are more motivated to maintain FINANCIAL health over physical health, and I bet Penny’s case would be no different. Especially since her treatment likely didn’t cost her a dime!!

  74. I sat in complete amazement at penny last night!!! This woman has some serious mental health issues that really needed to be addressed pre-surgery. Her spouse was an enabler of maximum capacity and he needs alot of therapy as well. She is the ‘breadwinner’ so he is just going to do whatever she wants. He needs to grow a set of balls and that poor little boy!! I am most shocked though at the amount of food she was able to eat. I had a gastric sleeve surgery done a year and a half ago. There is absolutely NO WAY i could eat like she eats! I can only eat 5-6 ozs of food at a time. And usually when i eat i stay full for hours!! I dont see how she was able to eat like that!! It was like she was not even trying!!!

    • I have read about people dying after having that surgery, because they go back to their old eating habits, and all that food is too much for the stomach to handle. However, I know others who have had that surgery, and although they don’t eat the same amount of food they ate pre-surgery, they have gained weight back. While I agree that her husband, Edgar, is an enabler, I think he needs to grow a spine. You can tell Edgar is totally afraid of Penny. She is such a smart ass, a bully, a narcissist, a master manipulator, and she uses those talents to the best of her ability. Edgar needs to get a job, take Liam and leave, and let Penny fend for herself. Maybe then will she actually walk, and fend for herself.

  75. Poor, poor child.
    Penny is a selfish, disgusting pig only thinking of herself and nobody else.
    She lies to everyone including herself, she manipulates and she is absolutely nuts.
    No one will ever get through to her.
    Her husband is nothing more than her stupid slave and an enabler ,
    deepfrying wontons for her !?!?!
    She will probably die, and her child will grow up without a mother.
    Poor kid never had a mother …

  76. Penny lives in a world of her own, she wants to lose weight and aims for the surgery for help well if you werent shoveling food in your mouth all the time and excerise you might lose some weight, you lie to yourself and everyone else about what you eat. Meantime the government is paying for this surgery and you complain about not losing weight after its done, scales are wrong, ha ha, you think everyone else is the blame except yourself. I have watched the episode twice and get madder each time. Grow up lady except the facts and do something for yourself this world doesnt owe you anything. YOU CAN LOSE WEIGHT IF YOU WANT TO, my opinion is you like your life and you like people waiting on you. Also you talk to your husband in a terrible way that he does not deserve, take responsibility for yourself for once in your life

  77. This episode made me so angry! I wanted to the doctor to tell her she was going to die, and a small bit of me kind of wanted her to. What made me the most angry was the moment where she told her son that he didn’t have to eat well until he was 18….seriously!!! You just want someone as fat as you so you don’t feel so alone. Then you can blame the doctor for his morbid obesity too. I hope that something scares the crap out of her and she stops making excuses and gets her rear in gear…. nothing irks me more than someone asking for help and then fighting and arguing the help. If you wont work for it, don’t ask.

    • This episode made me furious. Her “poor me” victim thing was so annoying. But the worst for me (with Penny and many others profiled on this show) is her sense of entitlement and lack of gratitude. I wish my doctor were as patient and supportive as “Dr. Now.” He’s basically the only hope for patients of Penny’s size, yet she just blew the whole program. I’ve often wondered, as well, how these seemingly unemployed families pay for their pricey surgeries and treatments. My husband and I are self-employed, and our crappy benefits rarely result in us going to the doctor for anything. That bed should have gone to someone who was actually committed to getting help. And Dr. Nowzaraden’s time would have been better served playing golf.

  78. I would have to agree with the anger and disappointment I had watching this episode. Penny kept saying I am trying as hard as I can, and I am giving 100%. BullShit! And YOU know it Penny. You are acting like a child, you didnt need the oxygen…the Dr said your oxygen saturation was better than his, you are NOT eating right, you refuse to even TRY to get up and walk. You say you want to be there for Liam….but you refuse to DO THE WORK!! You have every opportunity and multiple professionals to help you but you are too busy PLAYING THE VICTIM. I seriously hope that you will WAKE UP and actually lose the weight. Stop making excuses and eating all that crap food!!1 Your CHILD needs you and your HUSBAND needs you….He should leave you and take the child….maybe then you would see the seriousness of all of this.WE ARE ALL PULLING FOR YOU….but YOU have to do the work!!!!

    • At the end of the show, Penny was piling her plate and constantly reaching for more. Edgar obviously has some serious issues himself to stay with this woman who doesn’t try. He needs to find a job, stop living on her disability and leave her there by herself to fend for herself. Let’s see how long she sits there and does nothing. She will not starve to death, she has plenty on her that will keep her alive for a long time. I wouldn’t lift another finger to help her eat anything else. He is a enabler of the worse kind and he is allowing this to destroy his son. I am appalled. This woman is plain out lazy, demanding and although she has problems. so do a lot of folks, they do not let themselves get in this shape. Penny isn’t going to do anything, never planned to do anything and quite frankly a lazy, obese slob. There are no other words to describe her. By the way, she is most definitely a con artist. She conned everyone involved in this, the TV station, the doctor and she runs a daily con on her husband. This child needs to be taken away from the both of them and immediately.

  79. I have an eating disorder. I was once 193 pounds on a five foot frame. I am now in the high 130’s and I work hard to stay there. I have many health issues but I must say that I am self aware and Penny is not. She laughs at the dieticians; lies to the Physical therapist and to the very doctor who is trying to help her. By the end of the show I knew she didn’t want to do the work to lose the weight. Her son is so loving and he deserves better than this kind of life. She is abusive to her husband. How can we be sure she is not abusive to her child? She can’t be there for him. This episode made my head explode. I know how hard it is to recover from an eating disorder or at least be in remission. I didn’t have surgery but if I did I would do everything the doctor asked and more. What is wrong with Penny? She needs to fix her mind that is in denial before she can fix her body. One of the scenes that spoke to me was when she convinced herself she had to wear an oxegen mask when her blood saturation was so high. She needs have therapy but needs to want to heal. Healing is so possible and wonderful. Aloha

  80. I believe Penny has a deep seated fear of losing the weight that is not obvious to her or any of her support system. Coupled with that, being raised with an abusive parent most likely has made her distrustful of authority and rebelous toward the perceived authoritarian-based suggestions that could help her. One of the most obvious factors at work in her family system is that she is the focus of all attention within the family, even to the placing of the child, Liam, in a subservient position to her demands to be the focal point of the family. I imagine she gets something very important to her by being that focal point and should she normalize her weight, she would not longer “reign” in that position, which continues to sabotage any effort to change her situation. Both she and the family need intervention through highly skilled psychological resources to deal with Penny’s individual demons and the severely out of whack family system she has created.

  81. Penny’s attitude was absolutely disgusting. She plays the victim and has an excuse for everything. Being lazy got her in the situation and she obviously likes it. I want the husband to take his son and leave her. That is the wake up call she needs. It was very sickening to see someone take for granted the help people were offering her. Disgusting. And here’s a fact: no Penny, you don’t do more for your son than mothers that can walk and be there PHYSICALLY for their children ALL THE TIME. You are too busy sitting around eating and being selfish and (faking) happiness with your current situation. Wake up lady before you kill yourself!!!

  82. Seriously Penny is a disgrace! You should not have been blessed with that surgery! Preparing food in bed really?!?! I am so disgusted! She does not deserve to be a mother! Get off ur ass and put effort into it! And her husband needs to grow a pair! This episode infuriated me. At least others tried!

  83. It made me so angry for poor little Liam. And I have to wonder why she was not mortified about having to have her husband roll her over so she could use a bedpan on a pad. It’s not as though she has a debilitating illness that has made her incontinent. She doesn’t even care about blowing her dignity and getting to the point where she can’t even go to the toilet in private. Somehow, for me, that is the worst.

    • But isn’t this the ultimate in power over someone? I doubt even Cleopatra was pampered and attended to as much as this “princess”.

  84. She’s a professional victim who has no desire to lose weight, because then she would have responsibilities. Keeping a house, taking proper care of her poor son, maybe even getting a job. She prefers to lay in a bed in her own filth and let the world go by. I’ve never seen someone with that amount denial. Her husband needs to grow a spine and stand up to her for the sake of that little boy. We all saw through her lies.

  85. It’s all so sad. All the episodes, and Penny is not the worst I’ve ever seen, I personally know a few people who have had the surgery. One did amazing and worked his ass off for it, three of the others I know chose to fail when they realized how much work it really was. Penny makes excuses for everything and throws her faults on others. Then proclaims she is better than others at certain things because she really knows how messed up she is. She isn’t as blind as people think she is, just lazier than most realize. The worst part is TLC knew this, they broadcast it for the ratings and discussion and what not. More haters means more publicity and more money from advertisers. They do a lot of good, but capitalizing on people they know they can’t help is pathetic.

  86. Penny, I hope you read this. Food addiction is not like drug addiction, you must eat to survive. You have basically enslaved your little boy and husband, they are your food slaves. You justify that you are always there for your son because you cannot move! There are so many people out there who want to lose weight, who are literally dying and you had this opportunity and blew it! You are a lazy slob who blamed the doctor and the hospital scales on your lack of ambition. No one said you had to be 100 lbs, but you didn’t even try! You are mentally ill and need help. The state should take your child away from you. How do you think your child would feel if God forbid something happened at your house and your child and husband were able to leave the house and because you BLAMED THE WORLD ON YOUR WEIGHT GAIN AND THE FACT THAT YOU CHOSE NOT TO LOSE WEIGHT AFTER THE SURGERY and you perished in your home. But it seems that would be fine with you because you spend more time with your child than a mother that works outside of the home? Really?What do you think your child will think when he is of age to invite friends over and he can’t because he is ashamed of your laziness? He knows you had the surgery and right now he thinks it didn’t work, but when he gets older he will know that YOU THOUGHT A BIG MAC AND CRISPY CHICKEN WERE MORE IMPORTANT THAN TRYING TO HELP YOURSELF! Do you know there is over a 50% chance that your little boy will be obese? Your husband is no better, he is a robot and at your directive going to the store for Devils Food Cake? You are a selfish, selfish woman. We’ve all had struggles in our lives but it doesn’t give us the right to ruin your child’s life. I would make you pay back all the money collected from your friends, family and neighbors as well. SOMETIMES THE BEST MEDICINE IS MAKING A PERSON STAND ON THEIR OWN TWO FEET. You are SHAMEFUL AND DISGUSTING! You justify not being mentally and physically there for your husband and child by stating they are STATISFIED with the time and attention you are giving them now …which is nothing.

  87. Both Penny & Edgar are more to be pitied than laughed at…and left to their own devices, they will make horrible choices, so I started thinking…this family is living off her disability…which we as tax payers are funding. Her husband goes to the grocery store & buys all junk food. He most likely used a Food Benefit card. Here’s my question: if she’s disabled because she is morbidly obese and her food is being funded by a government agency, why aren’t these types of fatty foods banned from her purchase list since it’s this type of food that is the cause of her disability. Have all the salad you want, but you’re not getting cheesy poofs on my dime. Sure, they can buy them…but they won’t be GIVEN them. Once they see how little the rest if their welfare check is after having to pay for all that junk food & fast food, maybe Eddie wouldn’t have picked up those extra 2pints of Ben & Jerry’s for his whale of a wife.

  88. She actually thought she lost 340lbs. She told the paramedic and his face was like “wtf”. She is a very sick person, so is her husband. She is literally delusional.

  89. All I wanted to do is slap her saying that she did all she could to help her self stuffing her face isn’t helping and saying that she is a good mom sure your not she is a looser all I wanted to do to her is slap the shit out of her most of the show look in the mirror women you need mental help and you husband to .

  90. I do not think she knows that as her son grows older he will become ashamed of her. He will recall that she fail at the one thing he really counted on her to do. To keep her word. To lose weight, so she could walk, so she could go to his graduation. He will not trust her to keep her word any more. He will see through her as he grows.

  91. Just to add a little fuel to the fire, Penny’s husband is probably being PAID BY THE STATE to be her caregiver….

  92. Penny is lazy and should have to repay the state of Maryland or whatever state funded her surgery. She is lazy. Weight loss is not easy and WILL not be handed on a silver platter. She is an attention whore and wants people to feel sorry for her. She has a beautiful son that needs his mother. No matter how much she says she participates in his life, it does not replace what she could do for him! She is a waste and is making excuses for herself. If she were trying to loose weight, she would not be eating veggies dripping in butter, several slices of ham, bread with butter, etc. The list goes on and on.

    • People like her are the ones who make me go to gym and careful what I put in my mouth.She hss every excusec in the world 2 do nothing.She thought surgery would sollve all her problems without trying more.Bored to hell.

      • She actually thought surgery will do the magic without any effort from her. She is selfish. Her husband isn’t helping her too. Just waste of time.

    • I remember her the most! She even said that her neighbors had donated $ for her surgery. I think that’s why they moved to that apartment, so she didn’t have to face them. Also, her husband set up the furniture, and the first thing out of her mouth was that she couldn’t see the TV! Then missing all of her appointments! She would rather make crab rangoon off her ass! Gross! Enablers…..this is just like that attitude of an alcoholic!

      • Just saw the show today. I’m am so appalled by Penny, it is a disgrace to all the people who try desperately to lose weight and our not give the ability to have “a funded free surgery” and all that free ambulance transportation. That is supposed to be used for emergency services not bc you can’t get your lazy butt out the door. She should be ashamed ..eating like that, not getting of her butt up to make changes and to exercise on top of lying constantly to her Dr.
        Losing weight is a life change not a magic surgery. Her husband should also be ashamed by enabling her. Eating is a addiction like drugs. If he was smart he should remove that little boy from that scenario, the small child will be affected if not now down the road. Beyond that her story leaves me very bitter toward her for using people and funds, when serious weight losers could of benefited from the surgery and time from the Dr.

      • Its sooooo ludicrous. If she can’t walk, she obviously doesn’t need the surgery. If edgar doesn’t feed her, she’s guaranteed to lose weight. Her diet is similar to my dog’s. Its only what I give him.

    • Many here have a lot of vile things to say about Penny. I think she deserves a measure of pity. She is in a miserable state and will eventually die from her weakness. I doubt that is what she wants, but she seems incapable of mustering the strength needed to succeed. Some just don’t have the strength…that is how life is. Not everyone is strong and courageous. I feel sorry for her because she is miserable and will have an even more horrible end. Show a little empathy folks, for her and her husband. They are suffering. C’mon now.

      • It’s difficult to have empathy for someone who was GIVEN everything she needed to make life changes yet chose not to use those resources. All I heard from her was excuse after excuse. She blamed others, lied and made smart ass comments to everyone who was trying to help her. I’m sorry, I too watched my mom get beat. I too endured the abuse of a drug addict father. We all have childhood memories that aren’t so good, but it is our choice to decide how we are going to let those memories effect our lives. As a child, I went through as much as she did, probably more. I’m 130 lbs. We can’t use what happened to use in the past as an excuse to be lazy. She has a bad attitude and maybe if she worked on that and stopped being a smart ass to everyone trying to help her, her life would change

    • Watched Penny’s story just now for the third time and I am feeling so angry now. I found myself yelling at the television and my stomach was turning in knots. I felt bad for her… Well not really. I do believe she should pay back all of those people who tried to help her and the state of Maryland. Her and her husband don’t work, they live off of her disability. I work two jobs and I can barely afford food. Unless she is making progress to lose weight to eventually get off the disability they should cut that family off. Maybe Penny’s husband enables her because he doesn’t want to work either. Penny is the most selfish woman!!! Disgusting!!!

    • I cant believe how lazy penny is.. And she says she loves her son but insist on letting him eat ad much and as unhealthy as his mother. I dont find that to be a loving mother.. And as for her husband he should have takin his son and left to go get his own apartment and left penny in her own misery .. because in my eyes she is verbally abusive to her husband.. and her husband needs to grow a back bone and tell her to get her big butt up and go to the bathroom and walk her self to the refrigerator.. I feel really bad for her little boy!!! Her son desever a mother who wants to share all those special moment in his life out in the world not from some King Size Bed!!!!!!!! Penny you are lazy and pathetic selfish and full of excuses!!! especially with the oxygen!!!! Get off your butt be a women wife mother sister!!!!! Rant over!!!!!

    • This chick is so unbelievably lazy disgusting why she would spend other peoples money for a bull crap try of a weight loss attempt she didnt even try, her husband was a horrible enabler I see people like them all the time preying on family emotions with promises of change, but really there will never be none I feel disgusted this episode was even aired

    • I don’t what has happened to her but I had bypass 12 years ago and thank god everyday have gained 30 pounds back but still look “normal”. Her husband is a good man with bad choices. If she wanted food make her get out of bed and get it. Wonder what has happened to her. She was a wasted life.

    • Let her rot in her own lard. Full of excuses, careless, and stupid family. Animals can control themselves far better. She and the family should repay every single dollar spent back to the hospital and doctors keeping her alive. We don’t need 300+ lb humans in our society.

  93. Penny obviously has become so acclimated to being bedridden and waited on that I think she’s too scared to change. She doesn’t want to be self sufficient. She wants to stay “safe” in her cozy bed where no one expects anything from her. The juxtaposition of her claiming that she gives her son everything he needs with the video of her husband outside having fun with their son–showing that Penny actually misses a hell of a lot of her son’s life.

  94. Ughhh, what a nasty, disgusting, worthless piece of garbage and it has nothing to do with her obesity. There is nothing worse than a pathetic woman. Her son would be better off without her.

  95. For people who won’t follow experts advice you can’t help shame on you penny you don’t appreciate all the help you have received now you are on your own

  96. It makes me sick or should I say penny you make me sick.my son had been waiting years for his surgery.I don’t know how you got it and what you said or did to get the surgery but it’s not fair you took it away from someone who would do everything asked of them to be lucky enough to get the surgery but instead it was wasted on you.KARMA IS A BITCH, you will get yours.

  97. It seems this family has had problems for a long time: http://courtconnect.courts.delaware.gov/public/ck_public_qry_doct.cp_dktrpt_docket_report?backto=J&case_id=J0604006812

    Penny has ruined not only her life, but the life of her husband and potentially her child as well. If Penny wasn’t so selfish and would take care of herself so that she could be a decent wife and mother, she would not weigh so much that she could barely move and would not be on disability. Disability should be for people that really need it – and there are definitely people out there that need it. It’s people like Penny that cause so many others to think disability is a scam and that their hard-earned money is being wasted on selfish, lazy people. There are plenty of people that have worked for years and through no fault of their own find themselves with a medical issue that makes it impossible for them to hold a job. I’m guessing that her husband doesn’t work because he is the only person who is willing to wait on Penny like a servant. I hope he somehow gets the strength to do what he needs to do to take care of himself and his child. I agree with another poster – Penny should be put in a nursing home., where hopefully she would not have such easy access to food. Edgar should attempt to get a job during school hours, or if he has a family member willing to help him get on his feet, take Liam and stay with them.

  98. I wonder what “tons of fun” Penny would do if there were an emergency (like a fire) in her apartment. Hell, she couldn’t do anything for herself, her husband or her son, so her delusion of being a better parent than working mothers is a load of whale crap. I also wonder what her husband could (or better, WOULD) do to help her if there were an emergency like a fire – cos he’s not helping her in any way by wiping her ass and providing her junk food.

  99. Stop feeding your wife, Edgar! Does Penny not see the fat she eats and the degradation of her spouse having to attend to her bodily discharges? Enablers should be prosecuted and Edgar is guilty. The fact that he shopped according to her list of groceries tells us he has serious issues as to how he manages Penny’s severe obesity. Her motivation should be her adorable son and having an active sex life with her man. She is not just obese, she is mentally ill. And she doesn’t have long to live. Everybody in her life needs to intervene and stop feeding her rubbish. They are all guilty. Leave her a bowl of salad and see – she can hardly chase them to inflict punishment.

    • I agree with Lyn Mynott about feeding her food like salads or better yet Penny should be given protein shakes. She would scream and yell I’m sure, but that’s why someone made earplugs so you don’t have to listen to loud noises. Edgar should buy a pair and just give her protein shakes for all 3 meals and lots of water in between just watch the weight fall off Penny :) It’s not that hard you just have to ignore the fact that it’s your spouse, hand her the shake and water, put in your earplugs and walk away till the next meal… rinse and repeat after awhile she will get the idea and stop fighting it. As for these surgery’s I think it’s all bs all these people need is a serious attitude adjustment, all their family members also. Lose the weight then get surgery to get rid of the excess flesh that would make more sense to me.

  100. Penny enjoys the attention her situation brings her. This didn’t just start happening. What happened in her childhood that caused to to see illness, weakness and “poor me” as a way to get attention? She has surrounded herself with people too afraid of rejection, to risk standing up to her. I found it enlightening to see how hard it was for her to sit up in hospital, yet she could spring forward to grab the bag put on her bed at home. She is not as invalid as she likes others to believe. Penny has psychological issues that go back to her childhood and I believe she has a lot of pain that has never been addressed. What Penny needs more than surgery is to be locked in a room for a week with someone who won’t take her pathetic excuses but will make her face her issues and refuse to give in. She needs to get in touch with that pain and explore it. And I absolutely would not hand her any food. Put it on a table and when she’s hungry enough, she will go and get it, have no fear of that.

  101. I had weight loss surgery 6 months ago and have lost 100 pounds. When I cheat on my diet I watch this episode and it reminds me what can happen. I think Edgar is a fool for allowing her to eat poorly. Penny has no real sense of reality. But I do hope one day to see an update in here where she has changed her life around.

  102. She may have a pituitary gland tumor and Cushing syndrome. Also a genetic disorder. So, she can take into account this fact. I didn’t see that they checked this. Alo, some saturated fats are good to lose weight. I wonder, can she be contacted?

    • Penny’s problem is psychological. They check for medical disorders before agreeing to do gastric bypass surgery. Due to time restraints and editing to air a year in a one hour show, we do not see everything that they do with their weight loss patients. Until Penny’s psychological problems are addressed, and she is willing to do the work with the resources she is given, she will continue to eat herself to death.

    • Be serious she sat there eating all the wrong foods stop the exuses she is a fat piece of wasted space and Nasty on top of it. She was abusive to everyone who came in contact with her. I saw no one who truley was sincere about her condition. Take responsibility for your actions. I’m sick of working and paying for these lazy pieces of shit to stay home Social security is in the toilet I don’t know if there will be any left for the time I retire. Get a grip. I wish she would contact me.

    • I had weight loss surgery a year ago. Before surgery they test for all thyroid and pituitary problems as well as a litany of other blood and enzyme test repeatedly for over six months prior to the surgery. If they find any of these, they treat for them first.

  103. Penny is a fat cow who is a useless waste of space, her husband and child wait on her hand foot and she isn’t even trying just blaming everything on everything and everyone else, maybe she’d be better off 6 feet under

  104. People don’t get to that size without something psychological going on. I always wondered why counseling wasn’t part of the whole thing. Individual and family counseling is needed.

    • Totally agree with Leela. Penny has other issues. I’m not in her shoes so I can’t judge her. But yes, her surgery was a waste of resources.

    • I had weight loss surgery a few months back, and have lost 82lbs so far. My surgeon and my insurance required 6 months of pre operative counseling, and 1 year post op. These issues should have been addressed before surgery.

  105. I had a gastric sleeve done in June and am so grateful that I have insurance to cover and that I have done well. But its HARD WORK plus you literally have to go through PAIN to eat that much – I weighed less than half what Penny weighs when I had the procedure and have lost as of today 42 lbs. The only way to stay the same at her weight is to be chugging soft food like chocolate ice cream or such. There are certain foods that if I even smell, I want to throw up. So literally she is probably getting sick forcing herself to eat.

    The worst is she is selfish and not thinking of her family’s future. PS with my plan I had to have 6 months of weekly classes pre surgery to go over all the emotional parts

  106. Penny is a disgrace. Once again the tax dollars used for someone who has no intention on contributing to society. The most disturbing part of the show was her abusive behavior to the healthcare providers waiting on her. She blamed everyone in her path for her condition. She was downright nasty and verbally abusive to everyone including the doctor. Especially blaming the doctor because she lost no wait. But here is the kicker she honestly made a comment that she is a better mother then working mothers. She would not know a hard days work because it does not exist from her bed. What a fat ugly bitch she is a disgrace

      • I have watched all of these shows, and certainly Penny had the worst attitude. They should have chosen a more motivated person.

        But the most important thing about these shows, that everyone should take home from this, is never ever let yourself get in this condition. Even if you’re a just a few pounds or 200 pounds overweight, now is the time to do something about it.

        Join My Fitness Pal, a free app that helps you track your calories with over a 1 million, including fast food calorie database. Weight loss is simple math. Calories in versus calories out, simply meaning eat less, move more. No magic pills, no crazy diets, just portion control.

        Losing weight and getting in shape are never easy, but it’s happening through very determined individuals who look at Penny’s and all the other stories on this show, and come away thinking I am never going to live my life in bed or on a couch waiting for my body to kill me. I am going to get to a normal healthy BMI. I am not going to live in fear of getting type 2 diabetes, because I am in control of what and how much goes into my mouth.

  107. This lady mad me so mad. She is a marter and selfish! We all have problems, she did not make any effort at all what so ever. I was so pissed watching this episode because she had to the worst person to be able to get this surgery. She will die on this path. Clearly she loves the food more than life and her child. She made no effort! And she loves being the victim that was clear. If her husband did not bring her the food she would have to lose weight. I would of only given her what was required she wouldn’t have a choice. Ok I am done!

  108. i watched it today for the first and never been so disgusted with her. She came up with every excuse in the world to be lazy. What a waste of time. She need a Psychological evaluation before surgery. Her husband needs to leave her alone so she can get her act together. She is a disappointment .

  109. I am a recovering drug addict.

    3 1/2 years clean thanks for asking. This person is addicted to the feeling of food. Not soley food, but the chemical hook up she gets from ingesting food.

    She doesn’t need a Doctor, she needs an addiction psychiatrist. She needs to go into rehab with people like me, accept that she is powerless to her addiction and begin to get help so she can eventually feel better mentally.

    Good luck Penny.

    • She refuses any type of help that is given to her so addiction psychiatrists will not help. She’s clearly stated she doesn’t have any goals to look forward to when losing weight. She has no regards of the people around her, she’s a very selfish person. Just like how suicide is selfish, it’s the same thing but worse because it’s slowly.

  110. Penny is not a disgrace, a fat cow, a waste of a life or any of the other truly horrible, bigoted and inhumane things that have been written here. If these things had been said about a dog or cat, people would call for the writers to be prosecuted as animal a users.

    Unless you have been super morbidly obese (and I certainly have) shut the hell up.

    There is something organically wrong with Penny–the evidence was right there in the episode–when on the liquid protein diet and in the hospital where they were controlling her calorie intake, she only lost a few pounds. After this surgery–and yes I had the exact same surgery–you are restricted to a liquid protein diet and food is not appealing because everything hurts. Based on the EXTREMELY EDITED footage we saw, my guess is that Penny is drinking a lot of her calories. And what I heard was a tremendous amount of rationalization on Penny’s part–that seems to be the crux of her problem at this point–she needs a new physical work up and an ongoing relationship with a psychotherapist.

    It’s been a little over a year since my surgery and I’ve lost nearly over 35% of my presurgery weight! but after the first four months every single .2 of a pound is a struggle and a fight. Just like it is for everyone.

    • Are you saying Penny has the mental acuity of a cat or dog? Animals don’t generally eat themselves to death, by the way.

      Anyone who is that morbidly obese has to take responsibility for getting that overweight in the first place. It is not something that happens to you through no fault of your own. Stop playing the victim and expecting people to feel sorry for you. Losing weight is just solving a problem you created for yourself.

      Many people have psychological issues that lead them to behave in self-destructive ways, including gambling, alcoholism, and drug addiction. But throwing them a Pitt party and excusing their behavior because they have “problems” isn’t helping anyone and is not true compassion. It only enables them and hurts them more. If others don’t hold them accountable for their actions, they certainly won’t either and will likely never change.

      Also – did you miss the parts where her husband was bringing her extra food in the hospital? Of course she didn’t lose much – she wasn’t sticking to the diet. And you can ingest a LOT of calories in liquids!

    • Sorry but this is all Penny, she is the one who failed at this. She sabotaged her recovery and her weight loss by having everyone bring her stuff that she should not be eating after surgery, and “SHE” kept shoveling it in. The surgery is a hard surgery on your body, I know I had the same thing also, and you have to stick to and have the mind set to stick to it. In my opinion Penny thought surgery was going to be her cure and she would not have to stick to a diet or an exercise program. I had my surgery in 2004 and I am still sticking to my diet and exercise program. this surgery is a total life change. if you are not careful you can gain all the weight back.

      So open your eyes, and watch the show again, penny is doing this to herself. She has no one to blame but herself

    • Didn’t she receive a psych eval before the surgery to verify she was ready to do some work herself? She appeared to me that she thought the surgery would do it for her. She also appeared that she enjoyed being a victim. Even when the Dr. questioned the reason for oxygen, she was convinced she needed it and argued with the Dr. She was sarcastic and simply enjoyed laying in bed berating and ordering her husband around.

    • No on a lot of these shows family members sneak in food to the hospital, which what was going on with Penny also. She didn’t follow the doctors order, and even argued with the nurses about her liquid diet. She had an excuse for everything. She has a victim mentality, and it was evident at the end of the show when she was blaming the doctor, and stating “where is my yellow brick road.”

      Everyone’s has problems in their lives. This is life’s hurdles. The majority are able to work thru it, and then there are the minority like Penny who blame everyone but themselves for the circumstances they’re in. Penny has become an expert at that.

  111. This story raised many concerns, and I see everybody blaming Penny. But what concerns me most is the TV channel and producers who filmed this failure for a year and allowed it to go on so that they would have a dismal story to show that would enrage people. Did no one sit Edgar down and tell him to stop giving her food? We don’t see anything like that. We don’t see the advice that was given to Penny’s caretakers. She can’t walk so she is getting her food from others, even while in the hospital she was most likely getting food from Edgar. He needed psychological help as much as she did. But the cameras rolled on to show us this train wreck without this. They waited months and months and months to send a nutritionist in. Why wasn’t this counseling done early, and why wasn’t Edgar given the supportive counseling he needed to stop enabling Penny? The scenes of her making won tons and Edgar deep-frying them for her, did anybody on the camera crew or production team step in and suggest this was a bad idea??????

    • That is utterly ridiculous.

      Penny was given a chance many people would do anything to have. She wasted it.

      You cannot force help on someone who won’t accept it. Also, why do you think Penny and Edward are entitled to have all of these things done for them. PENNY IS NOT A VICTIM. Edward is not a victim. Do you know who the victims are? Their child and all the people who spent so much time and money on Penny and got nothing back but spite. She should be deeply ashamed.

      You can’t tell me Penny and Edward needed a nutritionist to tell them deep-fried wontons are high in calories, or that Edward doesn’t know feeding his wife like that is keeping her fat.

      Documentaries are not meant to interfere in what is going on, but to show it all – whether good or bad. If they chose not to air this episode because Penny is a failure then you would probably complain the show only wanted to show success stories and that it didn’t show how hard the process is.

      It’s not Penny’s fault, it is everyone else’s, right? It’s victim mentalities like yours that keeps people from achieving anything in their lives.

      • Dear all,

        I have never commented on such a forum but Penny’s story did make an impression on me. I have beens trudging with emotional eating and some depression, but certainly not to the extent that is portrayed on this show. One thing you can notice if you have been healthy and due to some traumatic event or stress have had your health deteriorate, especially if it is related to an eating disorder is that there is tipping point, and that the process is very complex. It requires a lot of strength, self-awareness, and A LOT of work, both emotional, psychological, physical, and mental to turn things around. The significant thing is that Penny has certainly developed a lot of her rationalization and mental outlook as a defense mechanism while dealing with an abusive and violent environment growing up. This has certainly traumatized her for life. Being born in this situation is not her fault. Trying to deal with it the best way she can is not her fault. I think that Penny appears selfish, weak, and certainly lacks a clear sense of reality, but a lot of the blame from people on this forum is a bit short-sighted: it is hard, very hard to evaluate the choices a human being goes through in their life and judge them. Just look t your parents’ lives! It is so easy to see the mistakes, the wrong turns, the lost battles, and blame people!

        Firstly: Penny grew up into her patterns. This is huge! These patterns are ingrained in her so deeply. The transformation will take enormous amount of energy, constant vigilance, and effort, on everyone’s part.

        Secondly: Penny found a person, Edgar, who loves her, but who enables her. The relationship is perfectly designed to serve her emotional disability, and not take her out of it. She seeks the comfort of the attention and care, but this is an elusive comfort that is destructive to her.

        Thirdly: She is working with very limited tools here, her mental, psychological, and spiritual health are not addressed, only her physical health. The surgery she underwent is a small pebble against a huge current of downward momentum, and is insufficient to cause a turnaround in her life.

        I completely agree with people’s comments that Edgar is a huge factor in her condition here. When I discussed this with my girlfriend, I told her that if she was in Penny’s situation, I would be absolutely cruelly consistent and not let give her an inch of space to continue on her downward spiral, that she would hate my guts over it, she would lose the weight, and get healthy, but our relationship would be destroyed form this, she would forever associate me with the role of a painful merciless barrier, and while she may see the love and devotion behind it, she would move on and be happy with a new relationship and a new life. That is what will take to get Penny out of her patterns. A total systematic well-planned and well-executed destruction of her reality and of all lifelines to her addiction and emotional entrapment. She will hate it, she will fight against it, it is human nature.

        The cruel truth is that her happiness and her survival lie on the other side of this painful transition, and there is no shortcut, no comfortable way of getting there. If there were, she would have done it long ago.

        Penny and everyone else who is struggling to make a change: the change is total, inside and out. If we focus on our bodies alone, we are mostly treating the symptom, not the cause. The body is merely a form, an expression of energy that we have gone through, gathered, processed, expended. The body is an afterthought. The body is a container. Penny’s suffering is deep inside. She is reaching out and crying out for help. Just read between the lines! Her rigid behavior and power over Edgar are perfectly designed to feed her addiction, and provide temporary relief. But this way she never has to face herself, her pain, her whole life of pain head-on. Who is prepared for that? It will take so much strength, so much support, and an incredibly powerful influence on her to get her out of it, to shake her down to her core!

        A person in Penny’s situation has lived in this extreme disharmony and imbalance for SO long that the transition will take a long time and will need to happen inside-out. Instead, the show tried to introduce an external event as a catalyst of the change, but it was obvious that this would not be significant enough to cause a turnaround.

        And all the therapists, the upsetting conversations with the doctor Z., while making Penny upset, remained external to her, she never embraced them, she never saw them as helpful, she saw them as disruptive of her environment.

        The problem, Penny, if you ever get to read this, is – and I say this with my full compassion and love from one human being to another who is suffering in the same way as we all are – the environment that you are protective of, the comfort and love that you feel in it is a mirage, is a numbing coverage of the pain that lies underneath, and the pain is what is suppressing your wonderful beautiful and loving true self from emerging and being alive. You see it and feel it int he moments when you connect with your boy, and in the moments when you truly mean to get healthy, be there at his graduation, and make a change. But those moments are scarce. And the reality is, Penny, that to get through to yourself, to connect to the person that you are inside, and that has been lost probably most of your life, you HAVE to go dismiss the false covers, and go through the pain, face it all, day after day, go beyond your limits, open up to it all, live through the pain over and over until it washes over you and loses its grip and power over you, and you are left free, light, and healthy…. It will take a long time. It is not too late, and you are very strong, very very strong, despite losing the battle with yourself over and over and over.

        People say the size of weight is the size of the wound.

        One thing that you should ask yourself is: in your final moment, wouldn’t you wish at least that you tried, really tried, and took a risk, at least once, to see what it is like on the other side of the pain and suffering? The risk to drop everything, EVERYTHING that you know and feel comfortable, and surrender to a change that is scary, foreign, disturbing, uncomfortable, but also maybe, just maybe, can bring you freedom and a new life?

        I am struggling with patterns and behaviors and habits that are destructive myself, and I know that in my last hours, I would like to know that at least I tried, I took a leap, I jumped into the fire and burned myself, but at least I gave myself a chance, and I gave God and the universe a chance, to bring something new to my life.

        Just ask yourself: when did you surprise yourself when you didn’t try something new?

        We should all ask ourselves that.

        With compassion and love,

        G

      • I think Penny should marry Gareth, the azzh..ole married to Penny. She would get on a diet then just to get away from him.

    • Having had similar surgery several months ago, and losing over 80 lbs so far,I am familiar with the pre surgical prep and spotted several errors in your comment.

      The idea of anyone but Penny being responsible for her situation is utter ridiculous.

      Firstly for all insurance carriers, even medicare and medicaid, require counseling over a period between 3-6 months prior to surgery before they will even agree to pay for the procedure. In addition patients(and their spouses or support people,) are required to visit with a nutritionist at least monthly and keep food journals, although this will only work if you tell the truth. You are also given detailed food plans that you design with the nutritionist with your taste preferences in mind. Penny obviously has a problem with this. I also attend a free weekly support group that my husband also attends with me. My surgery also came with a free membership to the state of the art gym at the surgery, which included personal training.

      Edgar was sneaking unhealthy food into her room. While I think that this was irresponsible on his part, it is clear to me that she is extremely domineering and something of a bully. She snaps at him for the slightest thing and treats him like a servant. I think that he is so kowtowed by her at this point that her gives her whats she wants just to keep her from bullying him. Abuse is not always physical, and the victim can be a man. They obviously need couples counseling as well.

      I work in publishing now but got my start in this field working for independent documentary film companies. Although we do not think of this this show as one, that is exactly what the nature of this show is designed to be. The first rule of documentary film making is DON’T INTERFERE!!! You are there to simply document. You cannot render aid, advice etc. And even if they could it would not have been effective. You saw just how deeply her denial ran. Anytime that someone from Edgar to the doctor criticized he in any way, she would snap and either yell, blame, or attempt to emotionally manipulate them with crocodile tears.

      You mentioned several times that someone should have said something each time that there was a problem. Do you really think that they don’t did not know that? Penny knows that she is fat, she simply cannot take responsibility. Edgar knows that the food her buys for her is bad. He is simply to afraid of the backlash if he bucks the trend. She knows that she will not see her son grow up, she just won’t deal with the real root of the problem that is feeding this compulsion.

      Fat people know that we are fat. Telling us that will not make us change. We will not change until we decide to address the problems that cause the over eating.

      Many people are saying that there may have been abuse issues but this is not an excuse. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused by both my mother and my step father. I has 32 broken bones before the age of 14. I suffer from PTSD, as well as Lupus, Rheumatoid Arthritis , and 4 herniated disks. I still manage to find a way to do what I need to do to lose the weight. She has been given all of the tools that she needs, but the only one that she really needs is self motivation.

      • Sharon GOOD for you! I too as mentioned above am “sleeved”. Now its 2 months. Dont you agree that at 500 lbs and NEVER moving she would STILL have to eat probably 5000 to 6000 calories per day? At this point in general I am eating 600 to 800 calories per day, mostly protein.

        I have seen folks larger than her through my weight loss process and the docs and they all walk. No running, but they are able to walk. To be a mom and not able to go with your child, its really horrible.

    • Umm it’s not the productions crew responsibility to tell her that eating fried won tons is a bad idea! She was utterly rude to the dietician as well as the physical therapist, how do you think she would have reacted to the production crew had they tried to stop her from eating her precious won tons? It’s common since that fried food is full of calories. She is not a stupid woman. She’s a lazy selfish woman.

    • The very first part of these shows states that only 5 percent are successful, meaning that 95 percent will eventually go back to their former food consumption habits, and gain the weight back.

      Penny’s story makes it more than clear that even after surgery, you can still eat yourself to death.

      I think that’s good for people to know. Maybe it will encourage others to make a lifestyle change now by eating less, and losing weight now, so they never have to go through a surgery that only works under the same pretense of normal weight loss, of eating less, while moving more.

    • On all of these episodes, there are enablers. I was struck by the doctor’s comment when he stated in the (I believe Christine’s story, the 21 year old) that her mother and husband will sabotage her weight loss, because they would lose control over her. And the doctor put her in the hospital to get away from them. It didn’t work, they kept sneaking in food.

      I presume they just didn’t realize the seriousness of what they were doing. They and other enablers are feeding their supposedly loved ones to death. No tough love in these episodes coming from family members, that’s for certain, otherwise they would have never gotten that big.

      Also very noteworthy, the majority of family members are obese themselves. They never learned good eating habits. Kids today are being raised by parents with bad eating habits and the cycle continues.

      It’s not what we’re eating so much, but how much. Hamburgers and french fries existed in the 50’s, during a time when it was difficult to find someone that was overweight. Portion sizes in most restaurants and fast food have tripled in size since the 50’s. They are designed to make certain that no one, regardless if your male or female or size ever leaves hungry. If you clean your plate in many of these popular places, you’ve probably consumed enough calories to last you two days.

      It’s really unfortunate, this country is the fattest in the world. Obesity is now our number one health concern, and type 2 diabetes is skyrocketing.

  112. EXCUSES EXCUSES!!!!! Thats ALL shes full of besides shit, their is someone out there that IS 600lbs who would give EVERYTHING to have that surgery, and all she’s done is make excuses and lie to the doctor and make him look like a total fool!!!!! made up dumb lies and took advantage of the LIFE SAVING gift that was given to her, I could understand if she has put forth just a tiny little bit of effort, but hell no she wanted to make the doctor look like A COMPLETE IDIOT,, she is a pathetic DISGRACE PERIOD…. no goals????? LMAO!!!! SHE MAKES ME SICK!!!

  113. Please do not detect one ounce of sarcasm in what I am about to write. Penny should be charged under child protection laws for repeatedly exposing herself to her son. To have a folds and folds of fat in your genital area and have your nighty rise up constantly is absolutely disgusting. This story makes me sad for the human race.

  114. Hell she can’t get out the bed so she has to eat what he cooks. Grow some balls and put her on a low card diet. Either she will eat it or she won’t. Either way she will lose weight. I wanted to reach in the Tv and shake them both. Ok I lie… wanted to slap the dog crap out of both of them. Nothing taste as good as picking your kids up from school and hearing how they day went as you all head home feels.

  115. Penny plays the blame game. It’s excuse after excuse after excuse. “They didn’t weigh me right” “the doctor didn’t give me the right tool” until she can stop pointing the finger at everyone else and take responsibility for her decisions and action she’ll never have succeed. It’s sad she will excuse herself to death.

  116. I watched this program last night for the first time. First I like to say food is addiction like drugs, alcohol and not everyone becomes an alcoholic, druggie or obese. I have friends who can overeat and not gain a pound. We all have issues and have to deal with them in our own ways. Remember many people chose to get help and fail many times. When it comes to someone being obese we are quick to judge them as being lazy. I wasn’t happy with many of the comments Penny made but remember she knowns she could count on her husband.

    Also being a working mom I wasn’t happy about the comment she’s a better mom then working moms. It would been nice to hear Penny say I apprepicate all the help and support from her family and friends who raised the money for the surgery. What surprised me was when she made the comment I believe i losted 340 pounds. Wow.

    I hope the best for you Penny don’t give up!
    Tell Edgar when he goes to the grocery store he has to rip up your grocery list !

  117. This lady should be court ordered to repay the government for her medical bills. She should also repay her friends, family and neighbors who donated the money for her trip to Huston. She is a rude, lazy, selfish person who was given a gift and threw it away. It could have went to someone who really wanted to make life change and lose weight. What a shame.

  118. TLC Scandinavia aired the Penny-episode last night and I am as disgusted and shocked as the rest of you. Not by (surprise!!!) Penny. Penny is living in an alternate reality she created over the years to cope with her miserable life, and I – unlike many others in this forum – genuinely feel sorry for her.

    The culprit in this little story is Edgar – a calculating and manipulative man – who knows exactly what he is doing to Penny and those around her. I’m not surprised that Edgar – by playing the subdued, simple minded husband – managed to sneak under the radar.

    This is Factitious Disorder By Proxy – a condition in which a person deliberately produces, feigns or exaggerates symptoms in a person in their care. Penny is delusional, yes – but the one with the mental illness is Edgar. I suspect the fear of losing her is the motivation for killing her slowly in front of their son. He wants her to himself, and what better way than keeping her in that bed? Watch the episode again – but focus the attention on Edgar this time. You’ll see what I mean.

    If Penny is going to live – if the child is going to have something that resembles a normal childhood – Edgar The Feeder must be removed from the equation.

  119. Dear GOD!!!!

    I was so optimistic to see this show, thinking it will help so many people out there that are struggling with their weight loss but what it did instead is leave me with sense of disbelief and fear that it will be killing all these people instead of helping them… I was bariatric patient, although I never weighted this much I was at 370 lbs at my highest weight. This is when I said enough is enough and I took the control.

    I will tell you why I think this program and this doctor should be evaluated as I truly believe they are not helping but hurting these people in a long run.

    1. Where is Bariatric nutritionist? this was mandatory part before I was even considered for Gastric bypass. I set down with my Nutritionist and we developed my diet based on my weight it was 1800 calories- what is this nonsense of DR. N putting patient that ate 7000 calories on a 1000 calories diet, he is setting them for a failure. First it shuts down their metabolism and puts it in a starvation mode and it is impossible to control appetite so suddenly.
    2. Where is psychologist/psychiatrist, they need help to develop emotional tools on how to deal with issues in life and not turn to food, also their family members have to be part of it and understand how their enabling is hurting those they love.
    3. Physical therapy walking and setting goals to exercise together with diet. I was part of the program for a year before I was scheduled for surgery no buts or ifs, it is about long term changes and not a quick fix that they are portraying in this program. I think this Doctor is not looking for a long term solution for his patients.
    4. Food diary and food intake journal another tool to help patients reach long term goals and ensure long term success…
    5. Support groups, sharing best practices, ups and downs….
    6. Waste of medical resources and funds

    I am appalled that they are picturing surgery as a quick fix that it is not and it never can be, surgery is only a small piece and tool to help obese people reach long term goals.

    Until this Dr N and his team change their approach and portrayal of the surgery I think we will be seeing a lot more of those who fail and die with in a year and much less of those who have seen success and managed to maintain their weight off…

    Please take the program off the air as it will bring more harm than good.

  120. Never have I watched someone so self involved, defeatist and manipulative. I hope TLC is satisfied to have wasted their cash on this family instead of people more deserving? After 10minutes of Penny’s blah blah’ing about how she wants and will do the right thing but clearly won’t and can’t, I have to concur that that the best thing for Penny is for her is to go home.

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