While it’s only season two of FYI Network’s “Arranged”, we have already seen how even small things get magnified for arranged couples who haven’t spent a lot of time together. Last night, Ben and Vicki began a philosophical argument about phone use and social media posts.
Ben became a combination of a disapproving parent and someone who schools his bride-to-be about how to change her life to be more in tune with the Orthodox Jewish way of life.
They are both young, very young, and as a 21 year-old, it isn’t shocking that Vicki’s phone is always near her. Ben’s complaint is that she uses it a lot, even when manners seem to dictate she shouldn’t. That moment came in the latest episode, “Cold Feet, Hot Tempers”, when Ben embarrassed Vicki during a double date.
It had been building and Ben just ignored the fact that they were fixing up one of his friends with one of hers; it was a first date for them. A war broke out when Ben refused to stop berating Vicki for being rude, even after she gave him what he wanted, which was to hold her phone during the social occasion.
It humiliated her and the next time they spoke about it happened to be during her wedding shower. It was an event tossed by the Jewish community in Far Rockaway. Many of the guests were being introduced to Vicki for the first time and she truly missed her mom and family, who are back in Seattle. To help them feel included many photos were taken and posted to social media during the event.
It set up another discussion between the engaged couple, this time about Ben’s discomfort with a display of what he thought was vanity on Vicki’s part. Modesty and privacy are valued, which in this age of photo documentation of one’s meals, is a big change for Vicki. She’s new to the lifestyle and is struggling to adapt. Who is right about all this?
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