The season of “Married At First Sight: Second Chances” ended with a bang, not a whimper, as the saying goes, particularly for David Norton. We published a recap of the finale as well as the controversial and stormy reunion show that ended with big questions about David, some of which raised ethical and/or moral concerns.
We asked Lifetime network to pose those questions to the experts who appeared on the reunion show and Rachel DeAlto was kind enough to take the time to respond. Rachel’s bio is posted below. Please let us know your reaction to all of this in the comments section.
TVRuckus: Did you know that David dated some of the women outside the confines of camera time, as mentioned by Maya and contacted some via text or social media after they were eliminated? You seemed surprised.
Rachel: “I had no idea whatsoever that David dated or spoke to the other women off camera. The allegations of texts, dates, and messages via social media were from left field and took us a minute to wrap our heads around.”
TVRuckus: If you didn’t know, are you disappointed in David? Does this change your opinion about him? How can that be prevented if the show gets renewed for a second season?
Rachel: “I was disappointed. I think about sums it up more than anything. I didn’t have extensive experience working with David before MAFS2C and we met during filming once he was already in the thick of drama and decisions. When I met David I absolutely saw him as someone who wanted to fall in love. I still believe that, although his actions in pursuing that left much to be desired.”
TVRuckus: Watching the reunion show, there were multiple instances of David either denying or “forgetting” things he said and did. Once reminded, he acknowledged everything but telling Isabella that his week with Tara was not good AND telling Tara he loved her. Were any of his lies troubling to you and if so, did they change your opinion of David?
Rachel: “Social media have been a firestorm – throwing around diagnoses of David left and right. I am not his therapist or a psychologist able to respond to those statements, but I did find those lies troubling. Though, unlike many, I didn’t see them as intentionally malicious. I do not think he is a malicious person, I perceive them as being similar to that of a child- telling them what they want to hear so that they are loved.”
TVRuckus: David revealed that he fell in love with Melika and that once she wouldn’t participate in the live-in week, he went through with those weeks more because he was contractually obligated, rather than hoping to find love with either woman.
Rachel: “Expressing that was unnecessary. If you don’t have anything nice to say, avoid opening your mouth. It’s sad that he couldn’t use that opportunity to see if there was potential with Isabella or Tara in spite of what he believed were his true feelings Melika. Though, I do believe that him saying that to Melika was similar to his other statements to the other girls – maybe it was true or maybe it was an attempt to get Melika to like him again.”
TVRuckus: They were giving themselves to him, presumably physically as well as emotionally and he knew that neither of them fit the bill. Can you understand them feeling betrayed, and potentially used? If so, does it trouble you that he may have engaged in intimate relations with them without them knowing what was in his heart? (Update: Tara on a MAFS2C fan Facebook page posted that she did not have sex with David)
Rachel: “YES! I understand all the pain and anger that surrounds the way this played out. It does trouble me that David was not honest with the women about where he was at emotionally, but as I stated above, I’m not convinced he had zero feelings for them. I believe he got caught up in a web of ‘I want everyone to like me’. ”
We’d like to thank Ms. DeAlto for her honesty and time. Here, however are two questions that went unanswered. With her background as an attorney, it makes sense that she would avoid speculation or try to answer. Would you?
TVRuckus: If the show goes on to get renewed for a second season, what kind of assurance could you provide women who saw how David behaved and fear it could happen to them?
TVRuckus: Recently ABC network suspended filming of “Bachelor in Paradise” to investigate what was thought to be non-consensual sexual conduct. Would you put David’s conduct in that category?
Rachel DeAlto is a relationship expert, coach, hypnotherapist, motivational speaker and author. She believes in the art of communication, and its inherent value in all aspects of your life. Rachel earned her undergraduate degree from the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University and later her Juris Doctorate at Seton Hall University School of Law. She was practiced law as a trial attorney.
“Married At First Sight: Second Chances” aired on Lifetime. Its companion show, “Married At First Sight” still airs, Thursdays beginning at 9 p.m. ET/PT Image credit: A&E/Lifetime, used with permission